There's truth in both perspectives, depending on the people and circumstances. However, at 27 he should be able to pursue both a fulfilling career and a relationship. You mention him not being ready for a relationship but wanting to "keep in touch". If keeping in touch means occasional dates, sex, and other benefits of a relationship, simply shared on an intermittent basis I see that as a slippery slope, and I wonder how you can truly love someone whom you haven't really experienced. It is perhaps more infatuation than love. You are too young to be waiting around for someone who isn't interested enough to be with you. I don't have a ton of experience with multiple relationships , but I do know that when two people are serious about being together they won't risk losing one another for much of anything.
Thee are a few things you mentioned that convinces me to move on but there also things u said that confuse me because it makes me think we are on the right track.
He is 27 but he just graduated from college so its kind of like he is living his early twenties a little late so he's on the same path as I am. But because he is 27 he prob feels behind and pressured to just get his career going as fast as he can.
Then, i also feel like if anyone is ruining the whole thing is me. I don't entirely blame myself because ya I do feel good confronting him about a lot of things I had to get off my best but at the same time he rarely complains to me. So if it wasn't for my constant Debbie downer, I think you can say were both on the same page of how much we wanna be together. Once I moved back home from college I didn't expect him to stay in touch and try to see me. But he was the one to make sure we stayed in touch.so when you said two people who wanna be together and not risk losing each other, I think us staying in touch when we weren't even together officially in the first place is choosing to not take that risk. We could've easily just walk away and move on since it wasn't like a real break up or anything but we still, especially him, made the intitiaion and effort to see each other. Don't you think that proves ur last sentence? Or staying in touch and seeing each other wasn't good enough and doesn't prove that we don't want to risk losing each other?
Is it normal for guys to not commit because of other priorities?
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There's truth in both perspectives, depending on the people and circumstances. However, at 27 he should be able to pursue both a fulfilling career and a relationship. You mention him not being ready for a relationship but wanting to "keep in touch". If keeping in touch means occasional dates, sex, and other benefits of a relationship, simply shared on an intermittent basis I see that as a slippery slope, and I wonder how you can truly love someone whom you haven't really experienced. It is perhaps more infatuation than love. You are too young to be waiting around for someone who isn't interested enough to be with you. I don't have a ton of experience with multiple relationships , but I do know that when two people are serious about being together they won't risk losing one another for much of anything.
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Thee are a few things you mentioned that convinces me to move on but there also things u said that confuse me because it makes me think we are on the right track.
He is 27 but he just graduated from college so its kind of like he is living his early twenties a little late so he's on the same path as I am. But because he is 27 he prob feels behind and pressured to just get his career going as fast as he can.
Then, i also feel like if anyone is ruining the whole thing is me. I don't entirely blame myself because ya I do feel good confronting him about a lot of things I had to get off my best but at the same time he rarely complains to me. So if it wasn't for my constant Debbie downer, I think you can say were both on the same page of how much we wanna be together. Once I moved back home from college I didn't expect him to stay in touch and try to see me. But he was the one to make sure we stayed in touch.so when you said two people who wanna be together and not risk losing each other, I think us staying in touch when we weren't even together officially in the first place is choosing to not take that risk. We could've easily just walk away and move on since it wasn't like a real break up or anything but we still, especially him, made the intitiaion and effort to see each other. Don't you think that proves ur last sentence? Or staying in touch and seeing each other wasn't good enough and doesn't prove that we don't want to risk losing each other?