He is how he is because he wants to be. No-one wants to change. It's counter-intuitive to put yourself in a relationship which relies on someone changing themselves. If you want a certain type of person, go and find that type of person. Finding a different person and ask them to be what you want instead of who they are is unlikely to make either of you happy.
You did the right thing in the end. Breaking up was good. The hurt does get better, and this grieving process and doubt is normal. However, breaking up is glorious and wonderful. Breaking up is what you do when you realize that you are a strong, valuable individual who is better than being treated badly and can make decisions to improve your life. It's deeply empowering.
IIN for guys to change in a relationship
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He is how he is because he wants to be. No-one wants to change. It's counter-intuitive to put yourself in a relationship which relies on someone changing themselves. If you want a certain type of person, go and find that type of person. Finding a different person and ask them to be what you want instead of who they are is unlikely to make either of you happy.
You did the right thing in the end. Breaking up was good. The hurt does get better, and this grieving process and doubt is normal. However, breaking up is glorious and wonderful. Breaking up is what you do when you realize that you are a strong, valuable individual who is better than being treated badly and can make decisions to improve your life. It's deeply empowering.