There have been times in my relationship where each of us taken each of the roles you described. I found that there are sometimes when I have had to say "look, i know you dont mean to, but this bothers me. I love you, but please stop." There have been times hes told me "you just cant do that, it hurts me and I don't want to feel hurt around you."
Finally, there are times when one of us has said "look, I love you, but this has to stop. Period. If this continues, I'm leaving, because its not worth sacrificing my self esteem."
The best way for us is to hit the problem head on. Say you dont like it, that its damaging to your relationship. But don't attack her - confront the behavior. Ride out the storm, stick your ground, make surr to remind her how much you care about her. It works for us, but you need to decide your specific approach. You also need to decide what you are willing to sacrifice for this girl if she wont quit - are you willing to sacrifice other relationships? Your dignity? Your sense of self worth? Find the line, and draw it clearly for yourself.
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There have been times in my relationship where each of us taken each of the roles you described. I found that there are sometimes when I have had to say "look, i know you dont mean to, but this bothers me. I love you, but please stop." There have been times hes told me "you just cant do that, it hurts me and I don't want to feel hurt around you."
Finally, there are times when one of us has said "look, I love you, but this has to stop. Period. If this continues, I'm leaving, because its not worth sacrificing my self esteem."
The best way for us is to hit the problem head on. Say you dont like it, that its damaging to your relationship. But don't attack her - confront the behavior. Ride out the storm, stick your ground, make surr to remind her how much you care about her. It works for us, but you need to decide your specific approach. You also need to decide what you are willing to sacrifice for this girl if she wont quit - are you willing to sacrifice other relationships? Your dignity? Your sense of self worth? Find the line, and draw it clearly for yourself.