When I said that I refuse to come in 2nd to last place, I didn't mean it literally. It's just that it feels like when they put family ahead of me I feel like I don't matter to them at all. Yes, family is important and everything, but what about your friends? Aren't friends just as important as family? And if you're constantly gonna choose your family over me, then what's the point in us being friends in the first place?
You confuse me a bit. If you didn't mean it literally, then how did you mean it exactly?
I guess it's normal that you would want to feel important when it comes to relationships, but expecting to be put ahead of family is just very selfish and unrealistic. If it comes to a friend or family, I am always going to put family first, as would most people I think, because that is what a person is supposed to do.
Anyway, have you tried talking to them about your feelings on the matter?
Yeah I guess I'm not making myself clear enough. I mean I'm not asking that my friends put me ahead of everything including family. I'm just asking that my friends treat me with the same courtesy as they treat their family. Because it seems whenever their families are around, suddenly it feels like I don't exist. It's like 100% of their attention goes to their families. I'm not trying to be selfish or anything.
Is it normal for friends to always put family ahead of you?
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When I said that I refuse to come in 2nd to last place, I didn't mean it literally. It's just that it feels like when they put family ahead of me I feel like I don't matter to them at all. Yes, family is important and everything, but what about your friends? Aren't friends just as important as family? And if you're constantly gonna choose your family over me, then what's the point in us being friends in the first place?
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You confuse me a bit. If you didn't mean it literally, then how did you mean it exactly?
I guess it's normal that you would want to feel important when it comes to relationships, but expecting to be put ahead of family is just very selfish and unrealistic. If it comes to a friend or family, I am always going to put family first, as would most people I think, because that is what a person is supposed to do.
Anyway, have you tried talking to them about your feelings on the matter?
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Yeah I guess I'm not making myself clear enough. I mean I'm not asking that my friends put me ahead of everything including family. I'm just asking that my friends treat me with the same courtesy as they treat their family. Because it seems whenever their families are around, suddenly it feels like I don't exist. It's like 100% of their attention goes to their families. I'm not trying to be selfish or anything.
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That seems much more reasonable when you put it that way.