ooh I totally understand! I think i might be asexual myself...Im still trying to figure it out. Still I don't know how you would get yourself to do it if you feel really uncomfortable ect. How does a relationship last though if the other party is wanting it and the other isn't..?
Meh, it lasts badly I guess, as you can see by this post. But, that's only because our relationship was basically formed through sexual attraction.
I guess at first I was excited about it because I've never done it before, but I grew tired of it, and I've always been sort of disgusted, but now it's really bad.
So yes, I think a relationship can work if it's formed through companionship and real love.
And, that's cool that you're able to understand that about yourself. Good luck on trying to figure it out. (:
ooh so I understand that from what your saying, is that you saw a girl that caught your eye and you found attractive, then you slept with her and realised you didn't enjoy it, and you had high expectations which were not met? a question: " did you find sex disgusting before you slept with her or after? I thought asexual people didn't involve themselves with sex at all? maybe I'm wrong... Also does she have any idea what u think about her? Lastly i agree with you that a relationship should be based around love and companionship, but in today's world I rarely think that will work without sex :/
I know, that's the sad truth :[
But, yeah, that's basically what it was. But it's more because, before her, I never had any luck with girls. I was just so lonely that when I met a girl who liked me, I kind of lied to myself and told myself that she was so great. But really, she was boring, cold, and perverted.
I found sex disgusting before, but it seemed to grow worse as I began to know her. And, most asexuals don't involve themselves, but some can. I personally can, because I suppose in the heat of the moment, it's exciting, but afterward, I'm disgusted with myself, and everyone else who acts sexually.
And, I think she understands that I dislike sex, and that I don't enjoy her company much, but she counters it with anger and jealousy, which only makes it worse.
oh yeah that's sad, and I am the same as you in the last part...finding sex disgusting and all even though I haven't done it. Thanks for your comment and elaborating a little more on my misunderstanding :) I hope you find a way to be happy again whether it's with her or without her.
Is it normal for feelings to just randomly die?
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ooh I totally understand! I think i might be asexual myself...Im still trying to figure it out. Still I don't know how you would get yourself to do it if you feel really uncomfortable ect. How does a relationship last though if the other party is wanting it and the other isn't..?
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Meh, it lasts badly I guess, as you can see by this post. But, that's only because our relationship was basically formed through sexual attraction.
I guess at first I was excited about it because I've never done it before, but I grew tired of it, and I've always been sort of disgusted, but now it's really bad.
So yes, I think a relationship can work if it's formed through companionship and real love.
And, that's cool that you're able to understand that about yourself. Good luck on trying to figure it out. (:
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ooh so I understand that from what your saying, is that you saw a girl that caught your eye and you found attractive, then you slept with her and realised you didn't enjoy it, and you had high expectations which were not met? a question: " did you find sex disgusting before you slept with her or after? I thought asexual people didn't involve themselves with sex at all? maybe I'm wrong... Also does she have any idea what u think about her? Lastly i agree with you that a relationship should be based around love and companionship, but in today's world I rarely think that will work without sex :/
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I know, that's the sad truth :[
But, yeah, that's basically what it was. But it's more because, before her, I never had any luck with girls. I was just so lonely that when I met a girl who liked me, I kind of lied to myself and told myself that she was so great. But really, she was boring, cold, and perverted.
I found sex disgusting before, but it seemed to grow worse as I began to know her. And, most asexuals don't involve themselves, but some can. I personally can, because I suppose in the heat of the moment, it's exciting, but afterward, I'm disgusted with myself, and everyone else who acts sexually.
And, I think she understands that I dislike sex, and that I don't enjoy her company much, but she counters it with anger and jealousy, which only makes it worse.
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oh yeah that's sad, and I am the same as you in the last part...finding sex disgusting and all even though I haven't done it. Thanks for your comment and elaborating a little more on my misunderstanding :) I hope you find a way to be happy again whether it's with her or without her.
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Thanks! :)
I hope you figure yourself out alright. Good luck!