It could likely be do to your attachment style. Read this article on Attachment Theory and romantic relationships; it might explain a lot for you. Attachment Theory is something which has been studied by psychologists for decades and these theories are sound. This article presents the basic theories and how they affect romantic relationship in an understandable way - it's worth the read. :)
thank you so much for this! I thought it would be because of something like that, but didn't know how to go about finding the information. very helpful and interesting, thanks:)
My pleasure. It's something I learned about in school in a developmental psychology class. Although, it was a bit challenging to find an online article which discussed it in a way that would make sense and be relevant to your situation.
People are able to improve their attachment style to that of a secure attachment. Usually, it happens when they are feeling secure in general about their entire life; they are with someone who is patient and can tolerate some hurtful behaviour; and they have to be aware and willing to work through negative feelings.
mm, I see. I read over the descriptions and felt surely that my mother would have given me the 'secure' style. However I have felt that she was a bit overprotective, but not as bad as some parents.
Maybe it had more to do with my father- he wasn't always around when I was a child due to his drug abuse, in and out of rehab etc. which caused my parents to split when I was 5. Growing up I learnt what things not to tell my mum about when I was with my dad so that she wouldn't worry, which is characteristic of anxious or preoccupied child.
Another thing- the first guy I dated which this happened with and ended due to this change of heart was a few years ago now, and I have become a lot happier and confident in myself, so I really wonder why I could still feel this way. Maybe it will take the right kind of guy. and with regards to the one I started dating recently, I certainly got this feeling a day or two after our first date and was afraid of ever continuing to contact him again until he spoke to me which made me more at ease, and now I'm trying to go with the flow and not think about things too much. I don't want to continue to change my feelings like this D:
Is it normal for feelings to change like this?
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It could likely be do to your attachment style. Read this article on Attachment Theory and romantic relationships; it might explain a lot for you. Attachment Theory is something which has been studied by psychologists for decades and these theories are sound. This article presents the basic theories and how they affect romantic relationship in an understandable way - it's worth the read. :)
http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/relationship-issues/attachment-styles.html
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Great article! thank you!
thank you so much for this! I thought it would be because of something like that, but didn't know how to go about finding the information. very helpful and interesting, thanks:)
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My pleasure. It's something I learned about in school in a developmental psychology class. Although, it was a bit challenging to find an online article which discussed it in a way that would make sense and be relevant to your situation.
People are able to improve their attachment style to that of a secure attachment. Usually, it happens when they are feeling secure in general about their entire life; they are with someone who is patient and can tolerate some hurtful behaviour; and they have to be aware and willing to work through negative feelings.
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mm, I see. I read over the descriptions and felt surely that my mother would have given me the 'secure' style. However I have felt that she was a bit overprotective, but not as bad as some parents.
Maybe it had more to do with my father- he wasn't always around when I was a child due to his drug abuse, in and out of rehab etc. which caused my parents to split when I was 5. Growing up I learnt what things not to tell my mum about when I was with my dad so that she wouldn't worry, which is characteristic of anxious or preoccupied child.
Another thing- the first guy I dated which this happened with and ended due to this change of heart was a few years ago now, and I have become a lot happier and confident in myself, so I really wonder why I could still feel this way. Maybe it will take the right kind of guy. and with regards to the one I started dating recently, I certainly got this feeling a day or two after our first date and was afraid of ever continuing to contact him again until he spoke to me which made me more at ease, and now I'm trying to go with the flow and not think about things too much. I don't want to continue to change my feelings like this D: