Consider it this way: you know they aren't basing any of their assumptions of you on factual reference (such as you being a lesbian for example). So, you must go a little farther into it. Why would they automatically assume that you are a lesbian when you are not with a man, when, in fact, they have never seen any proof of the homosexual theory?
You've spoken to them personally about it, and explained in detail what was going on and that you were happy. Yet still, they don't accept it. Here is my hypothesis:
Your family (aside from your parents, as you've stated) are probably conservatives. Hence, ANY other lifestyle that isn't the heterosexual man, wife, and children that you would have presented them with would be unacceptable. They are not different, and therefore should not breed people who are. It's irrational to think of it that way, as statistics show that it is very likely that two heterosexual people could produce a homosexual, pansexual, or asexual offspring.
You know this, and accept it, for not only can you see the logicality of the situation but you are personally a part of it. And though it sounds odd, they are simply replacing the asexuality with homosexuality because at least if you're a lesbian, there is some hope of changing your mind. If you aren't attracted to either sex, then there is no hope, and that scares them. In fear, they react in anger and hostility.
Though it may be hard to accept, they will probably never change. However, if you find contentment and fulfillment in your work and your lifestyle, that is what is most important.
Now, in order to squelch the rumors of your homosexuality, it may pay off to sit down with your entire family, as a whole (your parents, grandmother, cousin, etc..) and have a discussion about it. That way, the two people on your side (your parents) can help the others understand and take you more seriously. To your grandmother, you're still a child and therefore do not know what you want. That will be the main hurdle. I think having your parents there will actually help her be happy for you, in the long run.
Ultimately, your happiness and personal fulfillment are all that matters when it comes to yourself.
Is it normal for family to be so closed about my orientation?
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Consider it this way: you know they aren't basing any of their assumptions of you on factual reference (such as you being a lesbian for example). So, you must go a little farther into it. Why would they automatically assume that you are a lesbian when you are not with a man, when, in fact, they have never seen any proof of the homosexual theory?
You've spoken to them personally about it, and explained in detail what was going on and that you were happy. Yet still, they don't accept it. Here is my hypothesis:
Your family (aside from your parents, as you've stated) are probably conservatives. Hence, ANY other lifestyle that isn't the heterosexual man, wife, and children that you would have presented them with would be unacceptable. They are not different, and therefore should not breed people who are. It's irrational to think of it that way, as statistics show that it is very likely that two heterosexual people could produce a homosexual, pansexual, or asexual offspring.
You know this, and accept it, for not only can you see the logicality of the situation but you are personally a part of it. And though it sounds odd, they are simply replacing the asexuality with homosexuality because at least if you're a lesbian, there is some hope of changing your mind. If you aren't attracted to either sex, then there is no hope, and that scares them. In fear, they react in anger and hostility.
Though it may be hard to accept, they will probably never change. However, if you find contentment and fulfillment in your work and your lifestyle, that is what is most important.
Now, in order to squelch the rumors of your homosexuality, it may pay off to sit down with your entire family, as a whole (your parents, grandmother, cousin, etc..) and have a discussion about it. That way, the two people on your side (your parents) can help the others understand and take you more seriously. To your grandmother, you're still a child and therefore do not know what you want. That will be the main hurdle. I think having your parents there will actually help her be happy for you, in the long run.
Ultimately, your happiness and personal fulfillment are all that matters when it comes to yourself.