Hm, it might be normal since favoritism definitely happens and I've seen it even in my own house. It isn't right and usually when favoritism is there, its for all the wrong reasons. Its like back in high school where there may be a really popular person but in truth, they have 100 casual acquaintances instead of any real friends. The "smart guy/girl" in class who is out to prove something to the world with good grades and the teacher goes "You should be more like him/her", only to find out that when they graduate, no one will care about their grades in real life and they will have no hobbies or abilities other than books that makes them more special than anyone else.
Honestly, I believe the only thing you can do about this is accept the situation, fortify your self-value and take a little more control. Sure your sister is spoiled but you already said you're not jealous, if anything, you can feel sad that if she continues to be like that, real life will slap her in the face and she won't be prepared for not getting her way. At the same time, you can feel really good about yourself for not having to resort to such petty means of attention. Spoiled people rarely end up good, any attention she is getting is not meaningful nor will it last any real amount of time. Those friends of yours that talk to her? Its not like they suddenly dropped you and became her friend, its just a few moments of conversation. Outside of that house, I'd imagine your friends talk to you about you, not her. Time will show what really matters, just watch.
My parents are like this. I have a younger sibling and they give him anything, allow him to do anything he wanted and when he messes up is always esxused.
If they mess up I get in trouble, if I messed up I get in trouble. My mother spent most of my time telling me I was a selfish and hated me since I reminded me of her aunt apparently.
While my father seemed to reject me when my mom got angry at him for trying to be nice to me. My dad was always super possessive and my parents are both younger siblings.
So I think the reason they favour my sibling is they reject me as their older siblings which they hate. Whenever I tried to sign up for sports they said "We don't have money or sports are bad and unhealthy" but when my sibling signed up for boxing they told him "Good job we are so proud of you".
Even though when I signed up for fighting they kept trying to find reasons to not take me or pull me out. They always gave my sibling more rights even though every task they gave him he completely fucked up. They gave him 20 dollars and they say save 10 and he comes back with 5. They give me 20 and I come back with 10 or more.
When I was 16 we moved to a house with very small rooms and so we moved all the electronics to the back room. We both agreed to this. So we shared the back room. Our parents also told us both that neither of us would get the back room to ourselves.
Than eventually they gave it to my sibling. Who let the animals poop in the room and didn't care to clean it up. So I had to watch tv and stuff in the living room and they gave my sibling all the electronics. They than eventually asked and said "Hey do you want to switch his tv for your piano" and I polity said "No its alright I want to keep the instrument" and so they both told me I was a selfish ungrateful child and I deserve to live on the street.
So they ended up giving my sibling my piano when they already have 5 guitars and I only had one instrument, they let them have all the electronics in the backroom and when I tried to watch tv in the front room they said it was ok to kick me out so he could play games.
When I said it wasn't fair they told me I was selfish and spoiled and threatened to kick me out of the house. Than told me that people in japan don't get to have big rooms or tv so I should appreciate it. Though I wouldn't have really minded if they applied these rules to him but they only applied them to me. Even when I behaved.
I was always behaved, I always cleaned the house and did my chores, I always cleaned my house, and did exactly what I was told and they always treated them better. Despite the fact they were lazy, they didn't want to do anything but play games and now they are an adult and they don't care to go to school or try to get a job.
Since of course the only thing in the world that matters is video games. When I have worked hard and did what I was suppose to do every day of my life and hes had so much more opportunity than I had and he wont even think about job or a career.
While I try hard to find work in this shitty economy but he doesn't even try and he never did, never tried, never cared and I did everything right and still I get fucked over when my dad disowned me and kicked me out, and go through a bunch of shitty jobs that I cant keep because of hours, or that I don't get any real pay at.
Than them with perfect grade just says "Who cares I got a PlayStation and all I want to do is play video-games. Jobs don't matter, and neither does school, and even got offered a place in the military.
Is it normal for EVERYONE to like my younger sister better than me?
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Hm, it might be normal since favoritism definitely happens and I've seen it even in my own house. It isn't right and usually when favoritism is there, its for all the wrong reasons. Its like back in high school where there may be a really popular person but in truth, they have 100 casual acquaintances instead of any real friends. The "smart guy/girl" in class who is out to prove something to the world with good grades and the teacher goes "You should be more like him/her", only to find out that when they graduate, no one will care about their grades in real life and they will have no hobbies or abilities other than books that makes them more special than anyone else.
Honestly, I believe the only thing you can do about this is accept the situation, fortify your self-value and take a little more control. Sure your sister is spoiled but you already said you're not jealous, if anything, you can feel sad that if she continues to be like that, real life will slap her in the face and she won't be prepared for not getting her way. At the same time, you can feel really good about yourself for not having to resort to such petty means of attention. Spoiled people rarely end up good, any attention she is getting is not meaningful nor will it last any real amount of time. Those friends of yours that talk to her? Its not like they suddenly dropped you and became her friend, its just a few moments of conversation. Outside of that house, I'd imagine your friends talk to you about you, not her. Time will show what really matters, just watch.
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My parents are like this. I have a younger sibling and they give him anything, allow him to do anything he wanted and when he messes up is always esxused.
If they mess up I get in trouble, if I messed up I get in trouble. My mother spent most of my time telling me I was a selfish and hated me since I reminded me of her aunt apparently.
While my father seemed to reject me when my mom got angry at him for trying to be nice to me. My dad was always super possessive and my parents are both younger siblings.
So I think the reason they favour my sibling is they reject me as their older siblings which they hate. Whenever I tried to sign up for sports they said "We don't have money or sports are bad and unhealthy" but when my sibling signed up for boxing they told him "Good job we are so proud of you".
Even though when I signed up for fighting they kept trying to find reasons to not take me or pull me out. They always gave my sibling more rights even though every task they gave him he completely fucked up. They gave him 20 dollars and they say save 10 and he comes back with 5. They give me 20 and I come back with 10 or more.
When I was 16 we moved to a house with very small rooms and so we moved all the electronics to the back room. We both agreed to this. So we shared the back room. Our parents also told us both that neither of us would get the back room to ourselves.
Than eventually they gave it to my sibling. Who let the animals poop in the room and didn't care to clean it up. So I had to watch tv and stuff in the living room and they gave my sibling all the electronics. They than eventually asked and said "Hey do you want to switch his tv for your piano" and I polity said "No its alright I want to keep the instrument" and so they both told me I was a selfish ungrateful child and I deserve to live on the street.
So they ended up giving my sibling my piano when they already have 5 guitars and I only had one instrument, they let them have all the electronics in the backroom and when I tried to watch tv in the front room they said it was ok to kick me out so he could play games.
When I said it wasn't fair they told me I was selfish and spoiled and threatened to kick me out of the house. Than told me that people in japan don't get to have big rooms or tv so I should appreciate it. Though I wouldn't have really minded if they applied these rules to him but they only applied them to me. Even when I behaved.
I was always behaved, I always cleaned the house and did my chores, I always cleaned my house, and did exactly what I was told and they always treated them better. Despite the fact they were lazy, they didn't want to do anything but play games and now they are an adult and they don't care to go to school or try to get a job.
Since of course the only thing in the world that matters is video games. When I have worked hard and did what I was suppose to do every day of my life and hes had so much more opportunity than I had and he wont even think about job or a career.
While I try hard to find work in this shitty economy but he doesn't even try and he never did, never tried, never cared and I did everything right and still I get fucked over when my dad disowned me and kicked me out, and go through a bunch of shitty jobs that I cant keep because of hours, or that I don't get any real pay at.
Than them with perfect grade just says "Who cares I got a PlayStation and all I want to do is play video-games. Jobs don't matter, and neither does school, and even got offered a place in the military.