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They were together 5 years but he broke up with her. Got with me 6 months after he broke up with her so not like I was a rebound right? he started slowing talking with me and communication went to hell and he went back to her. They've been together for a month now.
They'll break up right?
Even if they do break up, would you take him back again? Surely not!
I'm afraid you were a rebound, which doesn't mean he saw you as that at the time, but 5 years is a long relationship to recover from in only 6 months.
It won't always feel as painful as it does right now.
We can't say they'll break up for sure... chances are that it won't work, considering most getting-back together stories I've heard and been through. Even if they do break up again you shouldn't be hoping to get back together with him. Move on and start something new. NEW is (almost) always better.
Maybe not normal but I think I can understand why it happened. 5 years is a really long time, in fact i'm always kinda surprised when people who've been dating for 5 years aren't married yet. It sounds like you were the rebound, and 9 months may make you believe you weren't because it's a decent amount of dating time, but in contrast to 5 years that's nothing. Clearly somebody who is dating somebody for 5 years isn't going to get over them in just 9 months, so I highly doubt he was ever over her (I mean, obviously) and was just attempting to the entire relationship. Anyways I wouldn't miss him, pretty soon he's going to realize why he dumped her in the first place and he'll end up without either of you.
I hate to break it to you, but you were his rebound person. Right now you need to move on with your life, and concentrate on making him disappear in your rear view mirror instead of hoping for someone else's sloppy seconds to come back to you. He's a scumbag.
But how can I be a rebound if we were together 9 months? Aren't rebounds only a month?
I dunno, sugar. While I see your point about your relationship being fairly substantial lengthwise compared to the typical rebound, I would have to assert that it could still be a rebound because it was fairly soon after the breakup of a much longer longterm relationship. Regardless, I don't think this person is good for you, dear heart, and I say that with all sincerity.