Is it normal for best friends to drift apart

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My best friend and I used to talk on the phone for 1+ hours every day(alot of times over 3). We also hung out every weekend and alot of the summer. Now that this new school year has started we barely ever are in contact. He doesnt really call me anymore and talks to me at school for like 5 minutes a day, and its really awkward. Hes been hanging out with his other friends more. I have been feeling really anxious because of this. Do you think we will be close again or is our friendship doomed?

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    One of my best friends since fourth grade decided to go the popular route our freshman year. Now he's an ass. People change. Some for the better some for the worse. If onlythey didn't but hey that's life. You gotta pick yourself back up and moe on. There are plenty more people to befriend so it's not worth it getting hooked on this one. Unless it was a really depressing split up. Then that can be accepted.

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    • comeon
      12 years ago

      Yes, this is normal. Some people just move on. BUt in this case here, this guy was talking to this person and next day not. NOT COOL

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  • xtsra82
    12 years ago

    I think that it is normal for people to outgrow each other. People are not meant to go in the same direction you are in. I have had some close friends and as began to get wiser and change from not so healthy habits to healthier ones - I lost them. Take a look at the direction your life is leading you and the direction your friends life is leading him. Sounds like you guys are crossing paths and yall interest are changing - well at least his. I wouldn't worry about it because if yall are true friends yall will eventually end back up on the previous path yall was on. After all even friendships deserve a little break from each other.

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    • comeon
      12 years ago

      Dude, what you say is soo true, but you can tell this person they will end up in same path again. Real friends dont bumpped into you and avoid you by talking to you for 5 min. That type of friends dont become your friends again. They only do to use you, and then dump you again when they find other new friends... naa drift apart is normal like you said. Grow up different paths, but in this post this guy got from talking a lot to nothing in short period of time. THAT IS NOT COOL.

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  • Farthead
    9 years ago

    It's over man. You and him just ain't friends anymore. It's something you'll just have to cope with. Maybe you can find you a new best friend. Best of luck to you.

    Love,
    Bootycracksnifferhead

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  • comeon
    12 years ago

    It is normal for a frienship to drift apart if you get married, or moved to another city or state. If he is in your school and only wants to talk to ou 5 min. He is a total asshole. He probably you not cool for his college image. If i were you, i will never speak to him again. He is thinking you are beneath him now. screw that!.

    If a friend does that to you, he was never a real friend in the first place.

    Good luck!

    PS. Find cool friends, and that to shit to him. Go by and dont say hi. :)

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    its over dude. His new friends replace u. Samething happen to me. After my senior year, this june we stopp talking to each other. I remeber dat we wrote in each others yearbooks that we will never loose contact and its only been 3 months n i havnt herd from her. Lol

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    • comeon
      12 years ago

      Dude she was never your friend. Real friends stay in touch after the year. I have friends since i was a child. or from high school. Is not normal to think his new friends replace him. she was never your real friend... just so you know.

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      • LOUi_CUDi
        12 years ago

        R u from a small town.. Lol well me n her r still friends we were kicking all last week. So ya I gues wer still friends

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago

    Sure. My best friend from childhood is still my friend, we just have little in common. We know that if we had only met now, we would not be friends. Our paths took us in different directions. Oddly, we live near each other, which is no where near where we grew up. But our history is such that we are like family. Emergency baby sitter or favors that require slave labor, we are there for each other. We just have no desire to hang out like we use to.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Have you tried asking him why he hasn't been talking to you? If not, I suggest you do that. But it is normal for people to grow apart. Some friendships last forever, some don't...it's just how it goes.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    People change.

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