Is it normal for a woman to not want to have kids?

I feel the same way. When people used to find out that I had no desire for wanting children, they'd always try to suck me in guilt and stereotype. That I would one day have children and get a man. That it would be the highlight of my life,etc.

Well, I don't want that! I would at least like to make something of myself accomplish something. I shouldn't have to be expected to give up my life, ruin my body with labour and settle down with a man living in a stereotypical role. It's maddening!!!

Same. No kiddies for me. You're totally normal.
I mean, who wants to spend 18+ years or their life looking after some pooping-screaming-utterly dependent thing? Not me.
Now I just need to find a man who doesn't want kids and stop my mother from trying to convince me that "Babies are God's greatest gift!" and that "being a mother is the most worthwhile and wonderful thing in the universe!"
Yikes. Her words, not mine.

"And today I was reading a news article and it mentioned something about the day you give birth is the most empowering day of your life. What about the day you graduate college? Get accepted into Law-school/med-school? What about when you actually achieve something in your life that will benefit society? "

This.
Now, I want kids someday, but I hardly see having kids to be more empowering than the day I graduate college, put my diploma to work and start using my intelligence and skills gifted to me as a woman to actually make a positive impact within society.

To the woman (or women) that decided to define femininity and female empowerment by whether or not you've squeezed one out yet: Fuck you. No, seriously. Fuck you.

In my aunt's words when I said I didn't want children: "but who will you live for?"....myself. I haven't spent a fortune on my education and finished postgraduate study so I can be like every other female on this planet and breed. Some love it, and all the power to them, but let them be the ones to have kids and enrich their lives as they please. I certainly will not succumb to an act considered socially important or relevant because it's the traditional notion of the role of a female. I don't have time, energy or patience for children, and I don't want them. So yes, you are normal.

sure its normal its ur life and youre the one who has control over birth not even your guy has control over it and its your life live the way u want forgot what people say coz theyl be gone after sometime after pushing u into something u dont want just focus on what u want right now if later u feel like wanting kids then go for it listen only to yourself coz in the end you will be responsible for what u do!

I completely agree. I hate it when people say giving birth is the biggest and most empowering moment in a woman's life. It makes no sense. I mean it's not like they all become great moms.. Plus I have bigger plans than having kids. I don't see the poing. Why go through 9 months of hell, then 18 years of a different kind of hell..Especially when I can be doing something else like getting a better education..making something out of myself..Motherhood is just not in my future..It's not for everyone.

Babies suck. Period. You shouldn't have one if you don't want it, it's your ethics and your prospects. No one can sway you but your own personal opinions and past experiences.

You're my kinda chick. I'm trying to find someone who doesn't want kids. I don't want to invest a lot of time in a relationship that will eventually end because we ultimately have different goals.

I agree with the original poster, kids suck. And I mean really suck. I cant stand people who throw their kids around like its some badge of honor or just because they had a kid their life is far more important then other people who havent had a kid. I personally dont have the time, energy, or patience either. And I really dont see it being that rewarding anyway. Maybe by the time the kid is graduating HS or something and is about to positively impact society (which could be a longshot depending on how well you did as a parent), but by that time the stress of raising the kid has aged you 3 years for every 1 year that someone who didnt have a kid aged.

Rescue a dog instead.

Well I personally think it is normal. A lot of women don't want to have children. I actually read somewhere that less women are having children because instead of child bearing they're focusing their time on their career, which is great. Anyways, I wouldn't lose faith in meeting a man who doesn't want to have kids. I'm not going to say that I know plenty of guys who don't want kids but I've met people who are indifferent towards being a father. If anything, I suggest just living your life the way you see fit. Someday you'll meet a person who'll probably share your want to not have children.

I think its way better to not have kids if you don't want them rather than people who shouldn't have them but do anyway. Its nobody's business but yours and it doesn't make you selfish, weird or unfeminine either.

Im not exactly mom material, I did have one child only because my husband wanted one but I realized that while I love my kid, I would never have another. Its just not my thing. I still feel weird holding other peoples babies even though I had one myself, it just doesn't feel natural to me.

I don't like babies I have 2 cuz ins with babies every time I see them somebody wants me to hold their frickin baby I don't even know their names and really don't care all the other girls at my work say once I meet the right guy I'll change my mind because he will want a baby my answer is always how is the right guy 4 me someone I have to change my views and opinions 4 or oh once u have a baby u will understand or they all think I can work any shift because I don't have a baby at home well maybe I have a life that doesn't revolve around a little things eating pooping and sleeping time or my favorite comment is who will take care of you when u get old i will have everything set up 4 myself y would I need someone else to control my stuff or me just because I'm elderly

i know how u fell im the same but dont be so negative there r guys out there witch don't wan't kids and just wan't somone to spend there lives wiv u will find the right guy 4 u 1 day.

Children?

FUCKNO

So yes, ur normal.

I think some people automatically think that women just spend their whole lives looking forward to having kids and getting married. So when women say they don't want to, it seems strange. It is normal, but you might scare away some guys. I want kids someday myself, and if a woman said this to me it would be a deal breaker.

Children are mind-numbing which is why most women stick them into child care and return to work. They hope that some unintelligent girl who likes playing with dolls will amuse her baby for a while.

I know I did!!

i wouldn't want to have children myself either. Luckily that isn't a big deal in my family.