i was raised by my single mother i have never really been a put my foot down kinda guy. im more of a let it roll off my back don't really care. but im married now and it's a whole new ball game but i really do appreciate the advise guys and gals.
I ompletely understand. I'm also very easy going and if it wasn't having any effect on you I'd say humour her but in this case it is. There is one major difference here, she is your wife and NOT your mother!!
You don't need another mother telling you what to do. You need a life long partner to help you grow and progress happily through your life. She's there to support you not guide you.
I's sure you will both work it out, but she maybe needs to grow up.
Maybe if you explained how ridiculous it would be if you didn't allow her to speak to her hairdresser or any male shopkeepers.
she talks to mostly girls but lesbians and she used to be bi and still has urges to get with girls. so i can't be tit for tat because she would tell me go talk to gay dudes and thats a big no thank you. she has been talking about hooking up with chicks lately and it bothers me cause weather it's a girl or guy it's still cheating. and she's done it before been with girls while we were together just to put it out there for all you who think im an absolutley horrible person.
Maybe that's why you got married so young and maybe that's why your wife is trying to mother you. I just wonder how long you two went out together - as tow why these issues never arose before.
If you're going to stay, you're going to have to change tack. Perhaps if you tighten the reins on her, she will see what it feels like to suffocate
she is 4 years older than me she does try to tell me what to do but i know it's for the best but enough is enough and thats why this issue is getting to me really bad.
is it normal for a wife to want you to not have friends but her own?
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i was raised by my single mother i have never really been a put my foot down kinda guy. im more of a let it roll off my back don't really care. but im married now and it's a whole new ball game but i really do appreciate the advise guys and gals.
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I ompletely understand. I'm also very easy going and if it wasn't having any effect on you I'd say humour her but in this case it is. There is one major difference here, she is your wife and NOT your mother!!
You don't need another mother telling you what to do. You need a life long partner to help you grow and progress happily through your life. She's there to support you not guide you.
I's sure you will both work it out, but she maybe needs to grow up.
Maybe if you explained how ridiculous it would be if you didn't allow her to speak to her hairdresser or any male shopkeepers.
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she talks to mostly girls but lesbians and she used to be bi and still has urges to get with girls. so i can't be tit for tat because she would tell me go talk to gay dudes and thats a big no thank you. she has been talking about hooking up with chicks lately and it bothers me cause weather it's a girl or guy it's still cheating. and she's done it before been with girls while we were together just to put it out there for all you who think im an absolutley horrible person.
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Whaaat?! And she expects you to behave like a saint!
I can't quite work out what exactly she wants - sounds like her cake and eating it too!
Personally, I'd talk to whoever I wanted - and you never know they could end up being 'friends' of hers too.
Do you know what I honestly think?.... You are in out of your depth here, this woman could buy and sell an innocent like you.
Stand up for yourself, or go back to a decent woman - your mother!!
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If I could I would sadly she is no longer with us
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Sorry to hear that :o(
Maybe that's why you got married so young and maybe that's why your wife is trying to mother you. I just wonder how long you two went out together - as tow why these issues never arose before.
If you're going to stay, you're going to have to change tack. Perhaps if you tighten the reins on her, she will see what it feels like to suffocate
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omg that's perfect show her how I feel thank you so much joybird
she is 4 years older than me she does try to tell me what to do but i know it's for the best but enough is enough and thats why this issue is getting to me really bad.