i do wear my wedding ring but it gets me the wrong kind of attention. and i let her have free range it's not that i don't trust her she can do as she pleases im not the jealous type but it's me that wants a little more slack on my leash. and yes i told her straight up what i did and she accepted me and my mistake. and i know that if this festers it will ruin us thats why im asking you guys and this is my first post but i really like the comments thank you guys especally katywompus and you joybird thanks a bunch!
Why did you tell her?
How long were you dating before you cheated?
Was it an affair that lasted a while, or a one-night stand or just a kiss?
A couple of things married men should never do - especially in front of their wives....
NEVER ever kiss any other female on the lips when you meet them, always on the cheek!
NEVER offer to buy other women drink or pay for their food if you are not in rounds.
Don't think your wife won't notice either of these coz you can bet your life she does, if you do them. These two tiny things add to trust, that you only kiss her and that your money is for your home.
Her problem is that she doesn't trust you and is never likely to 100% although it's to your credit that you told her. A friend of mine kissed another girl on holiday, told his wife and is now divorced!!
I'm just wondering what she would do if she saw you talking to another female? Would she come storming up to you both or would you just get hell at home later? After a while it may be worthwhile breaking the rules a little to lengthen that leash a little - as long as you don't step out of line, she should eventually lighten up!
A very difficult situation!!
Could take years to resolve!!
when i moved to the new company i was with her for about 6 months and was sleeping with the other woman for about 3 months. and i told her because i felt guilty and she told me that she wasn't going to wait for me to come back and get a job near her so we could be together. thats when i decided to stop seeing the other woman and that my wife is more important.
Awk that was in the early days when you were still deciding which one was for you - and you chose her!
ok It's time she wised up! We all have a few on the go until we decide which is the one for us and you are still very young. I'm even surprised you got married so young! Anyway, she's going to have to trust you put this crap behind you, stop her yanking your chain and tell her to grow up.
Do whatever you want to do and she will have to live with it or leave you. She won't leave but she really doesn't want you to do what she says! You are supposed to be the dominant one in this relationship and she won't respect you until you put your foot down.
You're doing nothing wrong and she's just gona have to live with it.
i was raised by my single mother i have never really been a put my foot down kinda guy. im more of a let it roll off my back don't really care. but im married now and it's a whole new ball game but i really do appreciate the advise guys and gals.
I ompletely understand. I'm also very easy going and if it wasn't having any effect on you I'd say humour her but in this case it is. There is one major difference here, she is your wife and NOT your mother!!
You don't need another mother telling you what to do. You need a life long partner to help you grow and progress happily through your life. She's there to support you not guide you.
I's sure you will both work it out, but she maybe needs to grow up.
Maybe if you explained how ridiculous it would be if you didn't allow her to speak to her hairdresser or any male shopkeepers.
she talks to mostly girls but lesbians and she used to be bi and still has urges to get with girls. so i can't be tit for tat because she would tell me go talk to gay dudes and thats a big no thank you. she has been talking about hooking up with chicks lately and it bothers me cause weather it's a girl or guy it's still cheating. and she's done it before been with girls while we were together just to put it out there for all you who think im an absolutley horrible person.
she is 4 years older than me she does try to tell me what to do but i know it's for the best but enough is enough and thats why this issue is getting to me really bad.
is it normal for a wife to want you to not have friends but her own?
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i do wear my wedding ring but it gets me the wrong kind of attention. and i let her have free range it's not that i don't trust her she can do as she pleases im not the jealous type but it's me that wants a little more slack on my leash. and yes i told her straight up what i did and she accepted me and my mistake. and i know that if this festers it will ruin us thats why im asking you guys and this is my first post but i really like the comments thank you guys especally katywompus and you joybird thanks a bunch!
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Why did you tell her?
How long were you dating before you cheated?
Was it an affair that lasted a while, or a one-night stand or just a kiss?
A couple of things married men should never do - especially in front of their wives....
NEVER ever kiss any other female on the lips when you meet them, always on the cheek!
NEVER offer to buy other women drink or pay for their food if you are not in rounds.
Don't think your wife won't notice either of these coz you can bet your life she does, if you do them. These two tiny things add to trust, that you only kiss her and that your money is for your home.
Her problem is that she doesn't trust you and is never likely to 100% although it's to your credit that you told her. A friend of mine kissed another girl on holiday, told his wife and is now divorced!!
I'm just wondering what she would do if she saw you talking to another female? Would she come storming up to you both or would you just get hell at home later? After a while it may be worthwhile breaking the rules a little to lengthen that leash a little - as long as you don't step out of line, she should eventually lighten up!
A very difficult situation!!
Could take years to resolve!!
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when i moved to the new company i was with her for about 6 months and was sleeping with the other woman for about 3 months. and i told her because i felt guilty and she told me that she wasn't going to wait for me to come back and get a job near her so we could be together. thats when i decided to stop seeing the other woman and that my wife is more important.
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Awk that was in the early days when you were still deciding which one was for you - and you chose her!
ok It's time she wised up! We all have a few on the go until we decide which is the one for us and you are still very young. I'm even surprised you got married so young! Anyway, she's going to have to trust you put this crap behind you, stop her yanking your chain and tell her to grow up.
Do whatever you want to do and she will have to live with it or leave you. She won't leave but she really doesn't want you to do what she says! You are supposed to be the dominant one in this relationship and she won't respect you until you put your foot down.
You're doing nothing wrong and she's just gona have to live with it.
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i was raised by my single mother i have never really been a put my foot down kinda guy. im more of a let it roll off my back don't really care. but im married now and it's a whole new ball game but i really do appreciate the advise guys and gals.
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I ompletely understand. I'm also very easy going and if it wasn't having any effect on you I'd say humour her but in this case it is. There is one major difference here, she is your wife and NOT your mother!!
You don't need another mother telling you what to do. You need a life long partner to help you grow and progress happily through your life. She's there to support you not guide you.
I's sure you will both work it out, but she maybe needs to grow up.
Maybe if you explained how ridiculous it would be if you didn't allow her to speak to her hairdresser or any male shopkeepers.
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she talks to mostly girls but lesbians and she used to be bi and still has urges to get with girls. so i can't be tit for tat because she would tell me go talk to gay dudes and thats a big no thank you. she has been talking about hooking up with chicks lately and it bothers me cause weather it's a girl or guy it's still cheating. and she's done it before been with girls while we were together just to put it out there for all you who think im an absolutley horrible person.
she is 4 years older than me she does try to tell me what to do but i know it's for the best but enough is enough and thats why this issue is getting to me really bad.