the way i see it is married or not kid or not if someone is going to cheat they are going to find a way to do so. i married my wife because i love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, and as far as the cheating goes it was an old employer who kinda pushed me into it and it just happened i did not have intentions to go and nail the boss, i like i said was pushed into the situation. i have not given her any reason to doubt me at all since the mirrage but she still treats me like before and i have no way of proving her wrong, just cause it's a catch 22 there is no way to prove im not only a way to prove that i am so in turn if i was she could find out a definate answer but there is no definate answer if im not you know? it's just hard and im young and don't know much about marriage.
i understand but i had just moved out of town and had just left my job to take this one. i could have said no but i didn't and i admit it was a huge mistake but i told her about it straight up, my wife could have turned down my mirrage proposal.
there was no excuse for my cheating but it happened and i feel bad for it. but at the same time she could have told me to hold off till she was completly over it or not have married at all. i believe marrying someone means that you understand there past no matter what happened and accept them for who they are not for what they did. my wife used to use cocaine for about 4-5 years before i met her and i understand that and don't hold that against her,although i could i don't why because her past is just that the past. if we dwell on the past we will never be able to move on to the future. or atleast thats what i think.
If you value your marriage as much as you say you do.... you may want to consider why you want to fight her so much on associating with other women.
The more you blame her for marrying you despite your past the more I wonder if she perhaps isn't incorrect in her questioning of your motives.
After all... it's not hard to imagine a man who says "well you should have thought about this before marrying me" as justification of his prior cheating.... and turning it into justification for starting cheating up again.
i can understand where you are coming from but the whole you shouldn't have married me thing isn't to justify anything i did what i did and i can't change my past. but if it was going to be a problem she should have talked to me about if before we did marry
is it normal for a wife to want you to not have friends but her own?
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the way i see it is married or not kid or not if someone is going to cheat they are going to find a way to do so. i married my wife because i love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, and as far as the cheating goes it was an old employer who kinda pushed me into it and it just happened i did not have intentions to go and nail the boss, i like i said was pushed into the situation. i have not given her any reason to doubt me at all since the mirrage but she still treats me like before and i have no way of proving her wrong, just cause it's a catch 22 there is no way to prove im not only a way to prove that i am so in turn if i was she could find out a definate answer but there is no definate answer if im not you know? it's just hard and im young and don't know much about marriage.
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"kinda pushed me into it "
Unless it was rape you had the ability to say yes or no
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i understand but i had just moved out of town and had just left my job to take this one. i could have said no but i didn't and i admit it was a huge mistake but i told her about it straight up, my wife could have turned down my mirrage proposal.
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"i had just moved out of town"
"my wife could have turned down my marriage proposal"
The first is an excuse
The second is ... blaming your wife?
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there was no excuse for my cheating but it happened and i feel bad for it. but at the same time she could have told me to hold off till she was completly over it or not have married at all. i believe marrying someone means that you understand there past no matter what happened and accept them for who they are not for what they did. my wife used to use cocaine for about 4-5 years before i met her and i understand that and don't hold that against her,although i could i don't why because her past is just that the past. if we dwell on the past we will never be able to move on to the future. or atleast thats what i think.
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If you value your marriage as much as you say you do.... you may want to consider why you want to fight her so much on associating with other women.
The more you blame her for marrying you despite your past the more I wonder if she perhaps isn't incorrect in her questioning of your motives.
After all... it's not hard to imagine a man who says "well you should have thought about this before marrying me" as justification of his prior cheating.... and turning it into justification for starting cheating up again.
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i can understand where you are coming from but the whole you shouldn't have married me thing isn't to justify anything i did what i did and i can't change my past. but if it was going to be a problem she should have talked to me about if before we did marry