Have I got news for you. I am 50 years old and my wife just turned 52. We have been married 21 years and we tried to have a baby with no luck. I even had "male" surgery which didn't help. Thank goodness for our wholesome loving marriage. However, when I hear of another expectant couple, it is the hardest thing to take. I can barely even choke up a "congradulations". Check out some infertility websites. you will find couples, especially women, who practically risk their lives to have a child, who sound on the verge emotional death from a miscarriage. Some would give anything even to adopt.
You have no idea how lucky you are.Do not be jealous of your friends, You are ahead of them. Going out, buying fancy this and hi-tech that is a joke compared to raising a family. That can always come later. Devote yourself to your family, raise your kids to be winners and never,under any circumstances show any sign of regret around them. And ignore that silly church altogether. You own yourself.
Thankyou all, it has taken me a long time to finally relize and pin point what was going on with me at that time. But I can honestly say now that once I stopped looking at other people and started looking at myself and being grateful for what I have that I am truely happy with where Im at. No, im not skinny, no im not rich. But I have two beautiful children,a group of genuine ,real friends and I best friend and husband who loves me for me. This is what people long for. I will no doubt continue to have my daily struggles with being a parent, but I can now be happy with this season that Im in at the momment! who knows what doors might open down the track, but for now I will do the best job that I can in being a loving mother and wife.And to flumflum98, I respect what you said and you are right! (except for maybe the "owning yourself" part but thats a whole other topic!) I actually have a good friend who cannot concieve naturally,being there for her and watching her struggle with countless failed attemps at IVF taught me alot about how lucky I am. Thankyou God for being so patient with me and putting up with my winging yet again! Lol
Is it normal for a mother to feel like this?
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Have I got news for you. I am 50 years old and my wife just turned 52. We have been married 21 years and we tried to have a baby with no luck. I even had "male" surgery which didn't help. Thank goodness for our wholesome loving marriage. However, when I hear of another expectant couple, it is the hardest thing to take. I can barely even choke up a "congradulations". Check out some infertility websites. you will find couples, especially women, who practically risk their lives to have a child, who sound on the verge emotional death from a miscarriage. Some would give anything even to adopt.
You have no idea how lucky you are.Do not be jealous of your friends, You are ahead of them. Going out, buying fancy this and hi-tech that is a joke compared to raising a family. That can always come later. Devote yourself to your family, raise your kids to be winners and never,under any circumstances show any sign of regret around them. And ignore that silly church altogether. You own yourself.
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Thankyou all, it has taken me a long time to finally relize and pin point what was going on with me at that time. But I can honestly say now that once I stopped looking at other people and started looking at myself and being grateful for what I have that I am truely happy with where Im at. No, im not skinny, no im not rich. But I have two beautiful children,a group of genuine ,real friends and I best friend and husband who loves me for me. This is what people long for. I will no doubt continue to have my daily struggles with being a parent, but I can now be happy with this season that Im in at the momment! who knows what doors might open down the track, but for now I will do the best job that I can in being a loving mother and wife.And to flumflum98, I respect what you said and you are right! (except for maybe the "owning yourself" part but thats a whole other topic!) I actually have a good friend who cannot concieve naturally,being there for her and watching her struggle with countless failed attemps at IVF taught me alot about how lucky I am. Thankyou God for being so patient with me and putting up with my winging yet again! Lol