Is it normal for a mom to act this way?

I don't understand if your grandfather left a will how she got your land?

Anyhow, I have a hateful mother and an absolutely rotten mother in law who shows favouritisn to different grandchildren. Anyhow, my solution was to move house and have damn all to do with any of them ever again!! I am so much happier now and looking back I don't know why I tried to do 'the right thing' and sustain relationships with these useless people!!

My grandmother always said, "Never go looking for trouble" which I realised was all I got if I had any contact with these two bitches. So, I haven't rang either of them in 9 years and when they phone me I just answer with yes or no - never asking any questions or showing any interest.

Please stop making the effort to make this woman appreciate you or change - she's just another hateful witch! You're only wasting your precious time! Move on with your own life, enjoy your kids and delete her number. Give it 3 months and I swear you're whole life will have changed for the better and you will be less stressed and so much happier.

All the very best to you.

if u kno,ur father than maybe she has something against him and is taking it out on u.

you are 32 now you have tried enough and gone to the ends of the earth for her. you have a family and that will have to be it for you and yr kids, some people are crazy and or mean. live yr life without her but for yr sake and especially the kids show forgiveness and ideally a sense of humour , let her crap stop with you and not continue for another generation, i think you need help from an impartial , someone to help you rid yrself of bitterness , good luck to you

I haven't met her but as far as I can tell she's not just a bad mother, she's bad person. I would give up on her at this point, but if she asks for a second chance, please take it. It's only fair to give second chances.

I'd just go ahead and legally divorce her as my mother. By the looks of it she won't leave you anything in her will so why not just hurt her like she's hurt you?

i really don't know what to think and say about these kind of people or what is wrong with them to act like that is it mental-illness or something old age i can't figure it out

it sounds to me like she just likes being mad like my uncle towards me because i truly think he doesn't like something about me

Sounds like your mom just sucks in general. I'd stop inviting her so she can't reject you. She's obviously not interested in being a mom or a grandma, and you feel like crap when she doesn't show up, so cut her off and everyone wins. She didn't raise you anyway. And it sounds to me like your grandfather left his land to HER, if she got it. Otherwise, you would have had to give it to her. If he left you that land, she could not have legally taken it. Just doesn't happen.

Uncle Randy is that you?

Seriously, it is like you have described my family to a tee. My grandmother basically treated my mother the same way. There was even property involved and everything and a big dispute over the money. Then my grandmother treats my mom horribly but when she needs something, my mother is the first one she calls cause she knows that my mother is the only one she can even count on. Yet she treats her the worst. Honestly, I do not know why mothers do this to their kids but I have vowed a long time ago to never show favoritism or any lack of love to any of my kids.
I'm really sorry that your mother is the way she is and that it upsets you. After a certain point you just need to do what is best for you and your immediate family.

Opheliawoo, you should confront her about how she didnt give you enough love and about everything shes stolen and not given you your whole life and you should tell all of them to get off of your property that belongs to you and your kids only! And when she dies you shouldnt bring your kids to her funeral

She doesn't give a shit about anyone but herself. She's selfish.

your mind is loose? o.O