Is it normal for a man to have "down low"lifestyle then not want it

Okay first off I'm frat from prejudice I could careless about someone s sexual orientation straight, bi, or gay. Hell I don't care if someone is great blue pink it's not that is what should matter. My concern is him not being honest first with himself second wiith me. A few weeks after all was out in the open to me I say down one niite and had that talk that first I cared a great deal for him as a friend so as a friend I I told hom that I know that he was sruggling with all of what was out and he was feeling vulnerable and I truly wanted him to be happy and if being happy meant we ended things and he could go on and be with that guy then I'd how out walk away and as far as anyone I our family or friends all they would. Know us that I chose to leave and that I'd never out him to anyone his secrets would remain locked up and never to be todo it's not my place to tell what is his to tell when ready.and that after I had time to get over the heart break is hoped with could find a way to be friends. And in theat instant he said I want you and only you. But I just have this gut wrenching feelif g he's not being honest with himself and whatever it was the want the need or desire to be with a man he could only bury that for so long before it surfaces and he's be battling himself