Hi, hope you won't mind me replying even though I'm not a lesbian. I've noticed something that at first confounded me about my gay male friends. Not one of them feels attracted to "effeminate" men. In the gay community, from what I've read and heard, this is considered highly incorrect thinking--even prejudicial and so-called self-loathing. So very many gays won't admit to feeling this way. However, many silently do.
On thinking it over, I found it to be reasonable because if someone is homosexual, that means he or she is attracted to people of the same gender. But what's more, very often there are social characteristics--body language, tone of voice, vocal inflection...--culturally associated with gender. I know we're not supposed to presume that behavior follows biological gender. But if someone is attracted to the traits of a given gender despite the biological gender of the people available to her/him, like a gay man being attracted to "very straight male" characteristics or a lesbian being attracted to "very straight female" characteristics, I don't see why such a person would be able to change his/her, um, excuse the expression, gender polarity. After all, regardless what the PC police would say, not many straight women are attracted to effeminate appearing and acting men, and vice versa for many straight men.
I hope you find someone to love who'll love you back just as much.
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Hi, hope you won't mind me replying even though I'm not a lesbian. I've noticed something that at first confounded me about my gay male friends. Not one of them feels attracted to "effeminate" men. In the gay community, from what I've read and heard, this is considered highly incorrect thinking--even prejudicial and so-called self-loathing. So very many gays won't admit to feeling this way. However, many silently do.
On thinking it over, I found it to be reasonable because if someone is homosexual, that means he or she is attracted to people of the same gender. But what's more, very often there are social characteristics--body language, tone of voice, vocal inflection...--culturally associated with gender. I know we're not supposed to presume that behavior follows biological gender. But if someone is attracted to the traits of a given gender despite the biological gender of the people available to her/him, like a gay man being attracted to "very straight male" characteristics or a lesbian being attracted to "very straight female" characteristics, I don't see why such a person would be able to change his/her, um, excuse the expression, gender polarity. After all, regardless what the PC police would say, not many straight women are attracted to effeminate appearing and acting men, and vice versa for many straight men.
I hope you find someone to love who'll love you back just as much.