Is it normal for a healthy, 21 year old female to have no libido?

I'm a generally healthy 21 year old. I mean, not the healthiest, but I'm a healthy weight and have never really been any better. Moving on. A few years ago, maybe back when I was hitting 19 my libido drastically dropped. By the time I was 20 I had absolutely none. I've been trying to get it back, as I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years. So I've wanted to ask, is it normal for a woman my age to have a loss of libido. Kinda seems like the non-ideal age to be losing that type of thing, on a biological point of view. I've been thinking it could be my birth control or my boyfriends dick nearly impaling me multiple times in the beginning. Sounds like a joke, but it's not. Not sure if that is the cause of my libido loss or my libido loss is the cause of that. Anyway, please don't respond if you are one of those people who think women don't have high libidos to begin with, because I used to be as horny as a rabbit. I just want someone who might understand me.

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  • Certain types of birth control can cause this. As for the rough sex, it shouldn't hurt and he should have been more gentle; I hope you've talk to him about that.

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  • I don't think this is normal. The first thing I'd be doing is trying another form of contraception and also getting my hormone levels checked medically.

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  • wtf is a libido

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    • It means ones sex drive for example
      Guys with high libido get erections
      all the time.
      Guys with low libido get less erections
      all the time.
      Her libido is so high i fear she may
      get pregnant, well again her sex drive
      is so high she may get pregnant.

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  • Yes, all of us experience different levels of sex drive
    I'm age 48, a White male my sex drive when i was teen
    went through the roof, than i my 20's it diminished
    than in my 30's it came back little stronger than before
    than it went down again and I'm at the age i can take
    it or leave it, but i like to the idea of having a girl
    whose younger than me and giving her lots of oral sex
    and fingering so i like to be the giver but i got mental
    health issues so it's hard to say I know myself and
    my cousin had hormonal imbalances so it's hard say i
    think we all experience low sex drives and with me
    i can take it or leave it but i love old fashion romance
    holding hands, cuddling, hugs, kisses i think sex is
    beautiful if it's a mutual thing between two people
    who really love on another, it should never be a
    one sided thing and yes it's normal to have hormones
    that seem to diminish than other times sky rocket.

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