Is it normal for a guy to try to make me feel guilty after sex?

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The guy in question is a co-worker David (not his real name), and he's really hot, but he's also really shy. He's also a bit older than me (I'm 25 and he's 32). I'd been flirting with him for a few months, but he just got all embarrassed all the time. He was playing hard to get, which really turned me on.

Anyway I told my friend Jess (also not her real name) about him and she said I should just corner him and "ambush fuck" him (her words). It sounded like a bad idea at first, because I'm not usually that kind of girl, but she told me that she used to do it a lot in college. She would go into a guy's dorm room and talk for a bit, then suddenly push him onto his bed and start undressing him. Most of the time they liked it when she was so forward, but if they started to object, Jess would tell them that if they didn't lie still she'd tell everyone that they'd tried to rape her. She says it worked every time.

Her story really turned me on, so about a week ago I followed David into the back room and locked the door and started caressing him and pressing myself against him. I was so incredibly horny at that point! He just sort of froze at first, but then he said please stop, he's got a girlfriend. Then he gave me a shove, and this made me suddenly get really angry. So I pushed him back and told him to do as I say or I'd scream. I took off his pants and started playing with him, and soon he was rock hard, so I knew he wanted me. I climbed onto him, and it was the best sex I ever had. I came in like twenty seconds.

Anyway, when I saw him later that day, he was crying at his desk. And for the last week he's been avoiding me. He also came when we did it, so I know he liked it too. I tried to do it again, but he won't come near me. Is it normal for a guy to act like that?

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    "Most of the time they liked it when she was so forward, but if they started to object, Jess would tell them that if they didn't lie still she'd tell everyone that they'd tried to rape her. She says it worked every time."

    So, she raped them? Forced them to sexual acts by threat of accusing them of a crime they never committed and would ruin their reputation merely by BEING voiced, and possibly their lives if the jury decides against him?

    "He just sort of froze at first, but then he said please stop, he's got a girlfriend. Then he gave me a shove, and this made me suddenly get really angry. So I pushed him back and told him to do as I say or I'd scream. I took off his pants and started playing with him, and soon he was rock hard, so I knew he wanted me. I climbed onto him, and it was the best sex I ever had. I came in like twenty seconds."

    So you raped him too? Despite him trying to push you away and telling you about his girlfriend? With basically the same threat?

    Seriously, you are both criminals and you wonder why he's considering you "guilty" or avoiding you? If some guy came on to you and raped you, would you happily spend time with them and wait for a repeat offense? And if your physical body works as it's meant to be and you moisten up or even have an orgasm during that rape, does that mean you enjoyed it and the guy was doing fine raping you?

    If you are so into dominating and demeaning men, consider work as a dominatrix. They'll actually PAY you for you to use them as you please. But don't go around raping innocent coworkers with girlfriends.

    If you got ANY honor left in you, you will apologize to him and leave him alone for good.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Don't be ridiculous. How can a woman RAPE a man? I didn't shove a dildo up his ass or anything! And he moved his hips with me, so he was into it, and like I said he got a hard-on and ejaculated. And isn't it every man's fantasy anyway? Who's ever heard of a man who'd refuse sex? Plus David's definitely not a fag.

      He's just feeling guilty we cheated on his girlfriend.

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        How can a woman RAPE a man?

        (i omitted the non-relevant definitions)

        rape [reyp] Show IPA noun, verb, raped, rap·ing.
        noun
        1. the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.
        2. any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.

        verb (used with object)
        6. to force to have sexual intercourse.

        verb (used without object)
        9. to commit rape.

        Yep, pretty much what you described that, so you can answer your own question. If you just want to deny reality and pretend what you did was fine, there's no help for you, unless he balls up and sues you.

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        oh, and i definitely hope you will fully support an eventual boyfriend you may have one day in betraying you...after all, if sex is involved, he can't say no, right?

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Troll.

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  • m.a.s97
    11 years ago

    Wow you raped him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Why the fuck do you people keep saying that?
      And come on, I have been flirting with him for months, and he got a kick out of it, men love attention.

      He chatted me up too, and I'll bet you anything he's been getting boners for me under his desk for ages. In fact the bastard never even told me he had a girlfriend until we had sex. Surely if a man REALLY wants to be left alone, he would say "I like you, but I have a girlfriend" instead of leading me on for half a year.

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      • VioletTrees
        11 years ago

        People keep saying that because if you have sex with someone after they say "no", it's rape. I don't care if he was hard, I don't care if he seemed "into it". Rape is rape.

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  • Maybeoneday
    10 years ago

    As a woman, with morals, I should add. You forced him to have sex with you? How is that not rape? It doesn't matter, men and women can both be subjected to rape. What you did is terrible, he should report you and have you fired.

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  • nickywa9
    11 years ago

    So you raped him. You are in denial sweetie. "I know he liked it" HE'S CRYING AT HIS DESK. He's probably scared to tell his friends because a girl over powered him. No wonder he was hard, there was a girl on him. Any man with a girl on him gets hard (unless they like a different sex) You are insane.

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  • PerfectlyNormalBeast
    11 years ago

    Do you know what I think? I think you knew it was rape all along. You knew before we all told you. You knew when you did it how wrong it is. In fact, I think your "Jess" also knew and I bet she didn't call your "ambush fucking" at all.
    She said "you should rape him" didn't she? And she told you about how powerless men feel when THEY think they might get accused of rape and THAT'S what turned you on.

    You didn't come here to ask if "David" was doing something wrong, did you? You can here to boast about it, not seek help. You are evil and I hope you get caught and punished one day.

    For concerned readers, check these links out:

    http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2008/06/i-was-raped-by-woman-who-used-threat-of.html

    same article here: http://jameslandrith.com/content/view/3148/79/

    Also this one: http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=166938

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Guess what, I read those articles. What a load of shit. I couldn't stop laughing.

      Just a bunch of selfish men making shit up to make it look like we're the monsters, not them. And so what if he feels "traumatized"?? He's a man, he deserves it.

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  • YouKnowWho
    11 years ago

    'Jess' is an idiot. Got that? Good. (But I don't think you did, anyway, because someone who's thick enough to believe bullshit like the stuff 'Jess', the glorious master of sexual wisdom told you ain't able to get anything at all.)

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