I have relevant confession that might make some people here think a lot less of me. Heck, it makes ME think a lot less of me.
At a party, my girlfriend and I were very drunk. I'd never seen her be violent as a drunk, and we've been drunk together 3 or 4 times before that with no problems. But that night, for whatever reason, she was. She kicked me, slapped me and pulled my hair. She's sort of a sadist (which is more than fine by me), so maybe she thought it was sexual. I'll never know; she was so drunk doesn't remember a moment of it apart from what I did.
I had had less than her, but still too much to act maturely. I pushed her off me hard and into a brick wall, where she hit her head and was pretty badly hurt, a lot worse than she had hurt me. She had headaches for a week afterwards. Even though the logical part of me knows what I did was understandable, not to mention accidental, and she has totally forgiven me, and she hit me hard and first, and we were both drunk, I still feel pretty damn shitty about what I did on a regular basis. I can't help feeling shitty abut it. It makes me wonder if part of me is a bad person after all.
So yeah, something about someone hitting someone stronger than themselves feels inherently wrong. For me, even though I had dozens of perfectly legitimate and logically excuses for what I did, it still felt wrong and continues to feel that way. But, as always, the lines can be blurred. It should be avoided whenever possible (hell, hitting ANYONE ahould be avoided whenever possible), but shouldn't be 100% taboo. Defence should be the only excuse, and even then only reasonable force should be used.
I don't think any less of you:) You acted in self-defense and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing malicious about it especially since you feel guilty. It's good that she forgave you.
That doesn't seem like you intentionally wanted to cause her weeks of pain or discomfort.
It was purely an accident. If she had fallen to the floor and missed the wall, I'm quite sure you wouldn't have continued the insult.
I even think legally speaking there is no assault here, except possibly originally her to you.
its normal for decent folk to feel bad when they hurt someone, even if that person may have provoked them, and especially if it's someone they care about. that's what makes them decent folk. glad she forgave you, and hopefully you can forgive yourself.
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I have relevant confession that might make some people here think a lot less of me. Heck, it makes ME think a lot less of me.
At a party, my girlfriend and I were very drunk. I'd never seen her be violent as a drunk, and we've been drunk together 3 or 4 times before that with no problems. But that night, for whatever reason, she was. She kicked me, slapped me and pulled my hair. She's sort of a sadist (which is more than fine by me), so maybe she thought it was sexual. I'll never know; she was so drunk doesn't remember a moment of it apart from what I did.
I had had less than her, but still too much to act maturely. I pushed her off me hard and into a brick wall, where she hit her head and was pretty badly hurt, a lot worse than she had hurt me. She had headaches for a week afterwards. Even though the logical part of me knows what I did was understandable, not to mention accidental, and she has totally forgiven me, and she hit me hard and first, and we were both drunk, I still feel pretty damn shitty about what I did on a regular basis. I can't help feeling shitty abut it. It makes me wonder if part of me is a bad person after all.
So yeah, something about someone hitting someone stronger than themselves feels inherently wrong. For me, even though I had dozens of perfectly legitimate and logically excuses for what I did, it still felt wrong and continues to feel that way. But, as always, the lines can be blurred. It should be avoided whenever possible (hell, hitting ANYONE ahould be avoided whenever possible), but shouldn't be 100% taboo. Defence should be the only excuse, and even then only reasonable force should be used.
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I don't think any less of you:) You acted in self-defense and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing malicious about it especially since you feel guilty. It's good that she forgave you.
That doesn't seem like you intentionally wanted to cause her weeks of pain or discomfort.
It was purely an accident. If she had fallen to the floor and missed the wall, I'm quite sure you wouldn't have continued the insult.
I even think legally speaking there is no assault here, except possibly originally her to you.
its normal for decent folk to feel bad when they hurt someone, even if that person may have provoked them, and especially if it's someone they care about. that's what makes them decent folk. glad she forgave you, and hopefully you can forgive yourself.
I read that story when you uploaded it, and what you done was justified, and it was her fault.