You're being a little hard on yourself. Chances are you said something that freaked her out. It was probably nothing you can be blamed for. People have peeves, triggers, red flags. But it's now established that she stopped short of ghosting you, and you've made it clear you're still interested in her, so I think your job now is to fight the urge to act, and just let her ruminate.
I think so, yes. If she doesn't respond by next weekend text her something simple and true. "Hey, I miss you. Get a drink?" Needs to be natural and real and from you though.
Perfect! IMO don't bring up any of the earlier awkwardness or try and apologize for anything. Act like it never happened and your only thought is to have a good time with someone you like.
So the second date happened. I didn't want to talk about any of the negative things that happened but she decided to bring them up during our date (in a somewhat joking way).
The date was still good though. Definitely feel closer and more secure about our relationship.. but also now I'm less sure how much forward I want to go forward with this.
Had the 4th date and we made out/ slept in her bed.
We expressed some care for each other too.
She asked me to come over Wednesday night now. Pretty sure the atmosphere is sexual.
I'm a bit worried about a number of things though. I cannot help but think of the relationship as something that might develop into marriage and there are lots of things that bother me
The thoughts of marriage bother you, or there are things between you that bother you given the fact you might someday be married?
You seem to have a bit of an obsessive side to you. Something gets on your mind, you can't shake it, feel the need to say it aloud - am I wrong? Not trying to criticize you but keep an eye on that, recognize the urge to air thoughts that should remain private. In my experience it's attached to a particular sensation and I've learned to recognize as an early warning system. "Heads up, you're about to say something you'll regret."
Just thought I would mention that because even mentioning marriage at this point is straight up taboo unless she brings it up.
Is it normal for a girl to have a few drinks and then just leave?
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You're being a little hard on yourself. Chances are you said something that freaked her out. It was probably nothing you can be blamed for. People have peeves, triggers, red flags. But it's now established that she stopped short of ghosting you, and you've made it clear you're still interested in her, so I think your job now is to fight the urge to act, and just let her ruminate.
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What do I say next? Should I maybe wait for her to text me?
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I think so, yes. If she doesn't respond by next weekend text her something simple and true. "Hey, I miss you. Get a drink?" Needs to be natural and real and from you though.
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I asked if she liked milkshakes and got a second date aayy
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Perfect! IMO don't bring up any of the earlier awkwardness or try and apologize for anything. Act like it never happened and your only thought is to have a good time with someone you like.
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So the second date happened. I didn't want to talk about any of the negative things that happened but she decided to bring them up during our date (in a somewhat joking way).
The date was still good though. Definitely feel closer and more secure about our relationship.. but also now I'm less sure how much forward I want to go forward with this.
Had the 4th date and we made out/ slept in her bed.
We expressed some care for each other too.
She asked me to come over Wednesday night now. Pretty sure the atmosphere is sexual.
I'm a bit worried about a number of things though. I cannot help but think of the relationship as something that might develop into marriage and there are lots of things that bother me
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The thoughts of marriage bother you, or there are things between you that bother you given the fact you might someday be married?
You seem to have a bit of an obsessive side to you. Something gets on your mind, you can't shake it, feel the need to say it aloud - am I wrong? Not trying to criticize you but keep an eye on that, recognize the urge to air thoughts that should remain private. In my experience it's attached to a particular sensation and I've learned to recognize as an early warning system. "Heads up, you're about to say something you'll regret."
Just thought I would mention that because even mentioning marriage at this point is straight up taboo unless she brings it up.