Is it normal for a girl to be scared of commitment?

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Ok I have a great boyfriend who basically thinks we are going to be married eventually. He's very into commitment, he wants to be a couples counselor etc. I am all for marrying him and what not but I'm not 25 yet and I have a strict not marry before 25 rule. However idk if I coul ever be married. I've only had like 3 boyfriends and two of them pretty serious but I want to travel the work and i don't even know what I want to do with my life yet. He all set and know what he wants to do but I'm not. is it normal to be super scared of commitment if I'm a girl with a super sweet boyfriend? I feel like tons of girls would love this relatonship but all I can think about is not being tied down.

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  • Ibelievethis
    10 years ago | pl

    Well I'm female and I've got no intentions of committing to anyone, ever. I'm too free spirited. xx

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  • ttty
    13 years ago | pl

    A lot of people try to define their life by what they think it will be like when they have no way of knowing. Your no marriage till 25 rule for example is completely arbitrary. There's no reason to believe that you aren't ready for marriage now or that you will be later based upon a number. Many people say that they wish that they had waited, that they had known better, but this knowledge and experience that they are drawing from is not due to their age (though you perspective does transform given time) but rather is due to their experiences and the lessons they learned. Had they waited it is likely that they would have made the same mistakes and learned the same lessons and wished they had waited longer.

    That being said, it is a difficult world to build a relationship in and you have the wanderlust. If you set out on you journeys you probably won't return the same person. Is he willing to accompany you or does he want to plant roots and make babies? Should you build a family with him you may find something wonderful enough to replace your ache for distant lands, or maybe not...can you give up that dream, or can you find a way to mutually fullfill each others and build something beautiful together. I hope for the latter. If not, you should probably reconsider the long term feasability of being a couple.

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  • pinkdroid
    13 years ago | pl

    I think you are a very independent woman with dreams and aspirations in life. You probably think there is more to life than relationships and love... Or, as you professed, you simply do not know what you want to do with your life yet. I think that's very normal, for you remind me of myself when I was exactly your age. A lot of women think about what would happen if they 'missed the boat' of being in a happy marriage if they let go of their partner now. Then there are others who gripe about giving themselves entirely to a partnership without having to fulfill their personal dreams. Well, whatever we do it's always a choice with consequence. You just have to understand yourself and assess what makes you truly happy!

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  • AshleyBrooke
    13 years ago | pl

    I have the same problem. :/ Just try to realize what you have before you lose it..

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    This is very normal but don't worry honey everything will turn out ok.

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