The problem with most feminists is they enjoy all those things that you listed as what men are supposed to do for woman, but when it comes to a man getting preferential treatment, or what they deem as preferential treatment, they are staunchly against it.
Its very difficult for men this day and age since role reversals and entire paradigms seem to be shifting. Feminists want equal treatment but they also want to be treated in the traditional sense when it comes to those topics that benefit them (i.e. pulling out chairs, men paying for dinner, opening car doors, etc). This to me seems like a classic case of wanting your cake and wanting to eat it too.
I have no problem with giving women equal treatment, in fact I would rather they are given equal treatment BUT I think equal treatment should extend to everything not just those topics that benefit women. If you want the same pay for the same work, which is completely reasonable, then you should also be more then willing to pull out that wallet when the check comes for the lobster dinner you ordered. If you arent willing to do that then you arent willing to accept equality.
Plenty of women would grudingly pay for their fair share while secretly deciding not to bother with the guy who accepts them doing that, perhaps even writing him off as cheap. If you fit that mold then you dont want equality or dont understand it at least.
I love your comment. I will also assure you that I do not fit the mold that you have described. I have no problem with giving a man his rights and benefits. When I vow to "love and obey" a man on my wedding, I will mean it. So that sounds a bit Victorian, but what I mean is, I can respect a man, and let him make decisions. I do not wish to be a power-hungry, career-oriented, ranting and raving bitch who runs my man around like a slave.
Social delicacies are fun for us, agreed. I like to be treated like a lady, and babied a little. However, I have no problem with doing my share as well. I can cook, serve, and clean in return, granted, I have actually married the guy, :)
If you want to treat women equally, that is your choice. However, inequality just sounds like a bad word, so we avoid it. What I am wanting here is not so much inequality as it is diversity and individuality. Hope this made sense.
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Great Post and topic to bring up.
The problem with most feminists is they enjoy all those things that you listed as what men are supposed to do for woman, but when it comes to a man getting preferential treatment, or what they deem as preferential treatment, they are staunchly against it.
Its very difficult for men this day and age since role reversals and entire paradigms seem to be shifting. Feminists want equal treatment but they also want to be treated in the traditional sense when it comes to those topics that benefit them (i.e. pulling out chairs, men paying for dinner, opening car doors, etc). This to me seems like a classic case of wanting your cake and wanting to eat it too.
I have no problem with giving women equal treatment, in fact I would rather they are given equal treatment BUT I think equal treatment should extend to everything not just those topics that benefit women. If you want the same pay for the same work, which is completely reasonable, then you should also be more then willing to pull out that wallet when the check comes for the lobster dinner you ordered. If you arent willing to do that then you arent willing to accept equality.
Plenty of women would grudingly pay for their fair share while secretly deciding not to bother with the guy who accepts them doing that, perhaps even writing him off as cheap. If you fit that mold then you dont want equality or dont understand it at least.
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I love your comment. I will also assure you that I do not fit the mold that you have described. I have no problem with giving a man his rights and benefits. When I vow to "love and obey" a man on my wedding, I will mean it. So that sounds a bit Victorian, but what I mean is, I can respect a man, and let him make decisions. I do not wish to be a power-hungry, career-oriented, ranting and raving bitch who runs my man around like a slave.
Social delicacies are fun for us, agreed. I like to be treated like a lady, and babied a little. However, I have no problem with doing my share as well. I can cook, serve, and clean in return, granted, I have actually married the guy, :)
If you want to treat women equally, that is your choice. However, inequality just sounds like a bad word, so we avoid it. What I am wanting here is not so much inequality as it is diversity and individuality. Hope this made sense.