After reading through all of your comment responses I have to say I am really impressed with your grasp of the world and what I can gather to be your outlook/worldview, especially for an 18yr girl! You have a better understanding of gender relations and what will make you and your future family happy at 18 than most Western women ever will. In the West feminist ideals and worldviews are strongly promoted in Hollywood/the media and academia (two areas heavily dominated by a hostile tribal minority that cannot be criticized without violating one of the strongest taboos). Because this propaganda targets women's vanity and the way it attempts to polarize the "sides" (antifeminist women are slaves, men are monster enslavers) women today have a very hard time not falling into this trap. Most women (and people in general) just don't care to think about and question the norm that much to come to any truly independent opinion. I mean think about it, 99% of (western) women have NEVER HEARD any legitimate argument against the feminist worldview. Instead, all they get is straw-man arguments set up by feminists (or the occasional uneducated, bigoted misogynist which the media loves to showcase). So most women think of it as freedom versus slavery, which is absolutely wrong. As I pointed out in my comment above, women have actually LOST RIGHTS DUE TO FEMINISM.
I find it very interesting that you are an 18yr white female living in China. How did that happen? Until very recently, my cousin ran 3 schools in China. Also, my wife is only 3 years older than you, so you never know when you might meet your future husband.
First of all, my curiosity has driven me to ask: how did you know my screen name? I thought I was "anonymous"? :) Secondly, thank you so much for your thoughtful, well-written, and agreeable response/s. I definitely wish there were more people like you in the world. Thirdly, I must admit to telling a partial untruth by calling myself "caucasian". Truth is, I am Eurasian, meaning my mom is white and my dad Chinese. Thus I have been able to spend plenty of time on both sides of the world. The reason I called myself white is because I am said to look more white than asian, and I didn't want people blaming my odd outlook on life on: "Oh, she's Chinese, duh!" Because, actually, I have spent much more time around my mom's family, and relate to American culture more than Chinese.
I do think differently than 99% of American women, and I don't really know what it stems from. Maybe it's just that there is something in me that drives me to be unique, and to question everything. I like a good debate. And I like to think. And, I honestly feel that my stance on feminism is the right one, and that has very little to do with my upbringing.
Yes, the all or nothing stance is what I want to strongly speak against here. Seriously people, we are NOT choosing between a life of slavery and misery, and a life of ecstatic freedom! Being feminine IS our freedom. Instead of having to amble through life worried, overworked, and stressing out over what our prideful society think of us, we have the freedom to be happy, to be treasured and loved, and to be valued for what we do best. In the olden days, there was something awesome and hopelessly attractive about women that drew men to them like flies. They were respected, revered, and doted upon because they were ladies. Now, we just have a bunch of human beings that mix and mingle and compete and fight. Gender distinction is becoming a thing of the past, and it makes me feel like there is no longer anything special about being a lady. Instead, we get the short end of the stick by having to work harder, and gain less. And you are very right about the way media and all their propaganda make it so women are left with hardly a choice.
Is it normal for a girl to be an antifeminist?
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Theabider,
After reading through all of your comment responses I have to say I am really impressed with your grasp of the world and what I can gather to be your outlook/worldview, especially for an 18yr girl! You have a better understanding of gender relations and what will make you and your future family happy at 18 than most Western women ever will. In the West feminist ideals and worldviews are strongly promoted in Hollywood/the media and academia (two areas heavily dominated by a hostile tribal minority that cannot be criticized without violating one of the strongest taboos). Because this propaganda targets women's vanity and the way it attempts to polarize the "sides" (antifeminist women are slaves, men are monster enslavers) women today have a very hard time not falling into this trap. Most women (and people in general) just don't care to think about and question the norm that much to come to any truly independent opinion. I mean think about it, 99% of (western) women have NEVER HEARD any legitimate argument against the feminist worldview. Instead, all they get is straw-man arguments set up by feminists (or the occasional uneducated, bigoted misogynist which the media loves to showcase). So most women think of it as freedom versus slavery, which is absolutely wrong. As I pointed out in my comment above, women have actually LOST RIGHTS DUE TO FEMINISM.
I find it very interesting that you are an 18yr white female living in China. How did that happen? Until very recently, my cousin ran 3 schools in China. Also, my wife is only 3 years older than you, so you never know when you might meet your future husband.
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First of all, my curiosity has driven me to ask: how did you know my screen name? I thought I was "anonymous"? :) Secondly, thank you so much for your thoughtful, well-written, and agreeable response/s. I definitely wish there were more people like you in the world. Thirdly, I must admit to telling a partial untruth by calling myself "caucasian". Truth is, I am Eurasian, meaning my mom is white and my dad Chinese. Thus I have been able to spend plenty of time on both sides of the world. The reason I called myself white is because I am said to look more white than asian, and I didn't want people blaming my odd outlook on life on: "Oh, she's Chinese, duh!" Because, actually, I have spent much more time around my mom's family, and relate to American culture more than Chinese.
I do think differently than 99% of American women, and I don't really know what it stems from. Maybe it's just that there is something in me that drives me to be unique, and to question everything. I like a good debate. And I like to think. And, I honestly feel that my stance on feminism is the right one, and that has very little to do with my upbringing.
Yes, the all or nothing stance is what I want to strongly speak against here. Seriously people, we are NOT choosing between a life of slavery and misery, and a life of ecstatic freedom! Being feminine IS our freedom. Instead of having to amble through life worried, overworked, and stressing out over what our prideful society think of us, we have the freedom to be happy, to be treasured and loved, and to be valued for what we do best. In the olden days, there was something awesome and hopelessly attractive about women that drew men to them like flies. They were respected, revered, and doted upon because they were ladies. Now, we just have a bunch of human beings that mix and mingle and compete and fight. Gender distinction is becoming a thing of the past, and it makes me feel like there is no longer anything special about being a lady. Instead, we get the short end of the stick by having to work harder, and gain less. And you are very right about the way media and all their propaganda make it so women are left with hardly a choice.