Is it normal for a girl my age to feel all these things?

I am a 22 year old island girl living my family in the states who hates my guts. So I don't do much here at all. I have no tv, no personnal space. I talked to my parents about wanting to go back home but they are more afraid about what others might think if I do. Its cold and lonely and I feel terribly depressed until I cry at nights. I really don't know what to do. I feel like a disappointment and sometimes I feel like killing myself. Its so hard feeling lost in life.

A "friend" of mine destroyed my love life by telling all my secrets to all my friends. My boyfriend and I had broken up and I was seeing someone else. I decided to get back with him since I really did love him but he had some ways that needed changing. I had a male best friend who told my other friend who he met through me about my peronnal life because he liked me and I didn't want to be with him. So he started dating my friend for spite but I didn't care because I didn't want him. Funny thing is is that she knew that he liked me but still went about dating him. My girlfriend turned around and told my boyfriends best friend what she had heard from my bestfriend and that dude told my boyfriend. So at that point my entire social life was fucked. It still is because I had little friends to begin with. I mean the ones that I have, I don't trust them as they talked about things that I told them in secrecy. I don't know who to trust anymore.

My dad cheats on my mom and he doesn't care. On top of that neither of my parents and I have a good relationship. We done go out, we don't converse much. My mom can be nice but she is very miserable, and my dad I don't know if he is proud of me because he doesn't really cling to me. My mom isn't very supportive of my life decision, instead she compares my life to my other friends which she barely knows anything about so it makes me feel as though she thinks they are better than I am. I don't like discussing my personal life with her because she inevitably throws it back in my face when she gets angry.

On top of that I am an only child with no siblings whatsoever. I feel lonely in the world. So cold and Lonely. I don't know what to do and every time I come up with a conclusion I feel confident in it for a minute and not in the next. I feel empty as a person. I feel weak and vulnerable. There is so much negative going on for my life and it has been this way for years. I just want to know if Im the only one with all these issues in their life? beacuse I feel like I am the only one with all these problems. Does dropping out of school and regrouping to go to a next one that is more comfortable mean that I am a failure? Do people have parents like these? Should I stick to being a loner? I need help cuz I think Im about to lose it.

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  • If i didnt know myself i would think i submitted this story. Im going trough sonething very similar with my parents, school ..etc.... and I understand exactly how you feel and im sorry that you are going trough so much . Keep being positive and try to take yourself out of that environment. I've noticed that for me it always start to get better when im away from negative and evil people.

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  • Gosh I could literally write a book to you. I think you are depressed and need to talk to your doc about your feelings. New beginnings are great, but right now maybe you should discuss this situation with a counsellor at your school. I say this because it is obvious you do not have a support network and you need to start getting one somewhere. Don't worry about the BF, he isn't worth having if he puts so much stalk into gossip. One thing that is really important to remember before you get to your doctor and school counselor is that when someone is depressed it makes everything in the world look absoloutely awful and worse than it is. Also, it might be time to consider moving out. It sounds like your home environment might be a little toxic. Also as an adult, which you are, it will be easier for you to sever the ties with mom and dad from your own place. It's time to value your own opinions and make your own decisions. Good luck.

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  • You just need to stay awway from the evil people like that and after your done with the school find a job then gradually make the amount of money that you need to buy a house or apartment then get some for the car computer etc....

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  • I'm sorry you feel so alone and so cold right now. I knew someone who was going to something very similiar, and she moved many miles away from where she was once happy. I know it's hard to know the truth too about how your parents really are or what they do behind each others backs. First, remember that it doesn't matter what other people think of you, only what you think you should do. First, I know your lonely right now and feel like you need someone to hold and make yours, but try and stay away from a relationship right now and focus on nothing but you. You need some you time to think things through to make some lifechanging decisions. Next, try to find something to do that will help you save money and become less dependant from them and more independant for yourself. This will help build confidence in yourself, yes even in the states, to help feel better. Then, when you've saved up enough, make your move, wether it's on your own or back home to a place where you can be happy. Hang in there girl, things can only get better if you stay strong and do what your heart wants you to do.

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  • All I can say is life can suck, but it can be good too. You need to choose whether you want to have a good life or not. These feeling you are having are normal, everyone who goes through a dark time feels this way. I have been through plenty before, but I kept telling myself "Its my life, I have control." You wont be able to control other peoples' lives, but whatever problems you have with them, talk it out, it will help to get feelings out. I hope this helped.

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  • Hey I can't say that I've felt that exact way but I've been in that dark place many of times... it seems you need someone to vent to if you are interested let me know and I will be the ears to your words... Until then you take one step at a time and keep your head straight forward...

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