Everybody is painting him as the bad guy, despite us not actually knowing him, his beliefs or your political ideas. Very easy to do when you only have one side of the story that is inevitably biased.
For example, let's say OP had become a member of a Neo-Nazi party or begun subscribing to a similarly extreme ideology. If he was profoundly opposed to said perspective, I can understand that on principle he might not wish to associate with you, and might be disappointed.
If, however, it's merely a case of tipping a little more one way or the other, e.g. slightly left to middle or slightly right, then it would seem a strong reaction and suggest either the friendship wasn't that important to him, or that political beliefs are the basis upon which a friendship has value for him. It would be strange to place so much weight on such a slight conflict of opinion.
So it might be normal in the first case, or it might be unusual in the second. We don't have enough detail to tell. If you inform us of how your political beliefs have changed and what exactly he is opposed to, that might allow us to judge the situation better.
I used to be a moderate Republican to Libertarian, but these parties are now full of people that are very extreme now compared to my views. I'm not saying the Democrats are perfect, but they seem the better choice right now. For instance, our new Governor, immediately upon being elected, gave himself a raise along with all the new hires (his supporters) that he brought on board. But he ended extended unemployment benefits and did away with teachers' raises and got rid of lots of assistant teachers. I also posted about scientific findings from fracking. So he saw some of my posts highlighting these reports in the news, and said this was goodbye.
Lots of people told me he was immature before, but I had not witnessed anything personally that I found to be a problem. It shocked me after being friends for 5 years. I knew we always had some differences, so I had just avoided the subject with him.
Thanks for the additional detail. Based on this I would conclude that it's strange he broke off the friendship for seemingly small political differences. Are you sure it was entirely to do with the change in political beliefs, or could this be one of several reasons why he broke off the friendship, or even an excuse obfuscating the true reason?
No, you can never be sure. He recently attempted to entice me into sex, which I sidestepped because I have a great relationship now. He was the one who had said from the beginning that he wanted kids, which I could not provide him, so we were just a temporary thing as far as dating. I was fine with that, but valued the friendship because our personalities complemented each other so well. He is the one always complaining he doesn't have friends. So I was just wondering if politics was a logical reason to stop being friends. I will certainly end it since he obviously needs it to end for some reason or other. Maybe he doesn't even realize the real reason himself.
Your boyfriend sounds like an idiot and very petty. If he is ready to dump you this quickly he really does not deserve you. That is as stupid as saying "Well you like pink? I like red. So im dumping you". How stupid does that sound? Find a real man not one willing to drop you so quickly for something so stupid.
I'm just disappointed because I wanted this friendship to be forever even if the love affair couldn't last. But for some reason that's a tricky thing to hold on to. He was just more interesting than most people because he has about three different personalities in one person that were all fun. I guess he has other personalties that are rude, and he just hid them from me, so focusing on that makes it easier to stop talking to him, but we were friends for 5 years. We clicked the moment he started talking to me, staring right into my eyes.
Is it normal for a friend to dump you because your politics changed?
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Everybody is painting him as the bad guy, despite us not actually knowing him, his beliefs or your political ideas. Very easy to do when you only have one side of the story that is inevitably biased.
For example, let's say OP had become a member of a Neo-Nazi party or begun subscribing to a similarly extreme ideology. If he was profoundly opposed to said perspective, I can understand that on principle he might not wish to associate with you, and might be disappointed.
If, however, it's merely a case of tipping a little more one way or the other, e.g. slightly left to middle or slightly right, then it would seem a strong reaction and suggest either the friendship wasn't that important to him, or that political beliefs are the basis upon which a friendship has value for him. It would be strange to place so much weight on such a slight conflict of opinion.
So it might be normal in the first case, or it might be unusual in the second. We don't have enough detail to tell. If you inform us of how your political beliefs have changed and what exactly he is opposed to, that might allow us to judge the situation better.
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I used to be a moderate Republican to Libertarian, but these parties are now full of people that are very extreme now compared to my views. I'm not saying the Democrats are perfect, but they seem the better choice right now. For instance, our new Governor, immediately upon being elected, gave himself a raise along with all the new hires (his supporters) that he brought on board. But he ended extended unemployment benefits and did away with teachers' raises and got rid of lots of assistant teachers. I also posted about scientific findings from fracking. So he saw some of my posts highlighting these reports in the news, and said this was goodbye.
Lots of people told me he was immature before, but I had not witnessed anything personally that I found to be a problem. It shocked me after being friends for 5 years. I knew we always had some differences, so I had just avoided the subject with him.
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Thanks for the additional detail. Based on this I would conclude that it's strange he broke off the friendship for seemingly small political differences. Are you sure it was entirely to do with the change in political beliefs, or could this be one of several reasons why he broke off the friendship, or even an excuse obfuscating the true reason?
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No, you can never be sure. He recently attempted to entice me into sex, which I sidestepped because I have a great relationship now. He was the one who had said from the beginning that he wanted kids, which I could not provide him, so we were just a temporary thing as far as dating. I was fine with that, but valued the friendship because our personalities complemented each other so well. He is the one always complaining he doesn't have friends. So I was just wondering if politics was a logical reason to stop being friends. I will certainly end it since he obviously needs it to end for some reason or other. Maybe he doesn't even realize the real reason himself.
Your boyfriend sounds like an idiot and very petty. If he is ready to dump you this quickly he really does not deserve you. That is as stupid as saying "Well you like pink? I like red. So im dumping you". How stupid does that sound? Find a real man not one willing to drop you so quickly for something so stupid.
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I'm just disappointed because I wanted this friendship to be forever even if the love affair couldn't last. But for some reason that's a tricky thing to hold on to. He was just more interesting than most people because he has about three different personalities in one person that were all fun. I guess he has other personalties that are rude, and he just hid them from me, so focusing on that makes it easier to stop talking to him, but we were friends for 5 years. We clicked the moment he started talking to me, staring right into my eyes.