I really feel for you. We cannot change the alcoholic. We can only change ourselves. I fear for your safety. If your father got so irate in public, infront of so many people, imagine what he is capable of doing(to you) in the privacy of his own home. I would fear my safety if I were you, and get the hell out of his way if I were you. Do you have a safe place to go, like a clean and sober relative or friend? Your Dad needs help, and you can't help him. Think of the three C's: You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. Whether you are there or not will not help your Dad. Acutally, by staying with him, you are actually enabling him to drink. If you leave, you are the strong one and by doing so it might make him force himself to look at his problem. May I suggest that you give Alanon or ACOA a call? Alanon is a great program for friends and families of alcoholics, and ACOA is also a good program for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Take care of yourself. You can't help your Dad. He's got to make the decision to help himself. There really aren't any excuses anymore. It's 2012 and SO MUCH HELP out there for addicts and alcoholics. Detox centers, recovery houses, rehab/treatment facilities, meetings, counselling, and on and on it goes. That help is there for you too, as from what you described, it sounds like you need some help to recover from the way he's been treating you.
I wish you all the best. Remember,YOU first. Your father is choosing the alcohol before you. He's being selfish. Now it's YOUR turn to be selfish. Get help for YOU.
Is it normal for a father to talk to their child like this?
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I really feel for you. We cannot change the alcoholic. We can only change ourselves. I fear for your safety. If your father got so irate in public, infront of so many people, imagine what he is capable of doing(to you) in the privacy of his own home. I would fear my safety if I were you, and get the hell out of his way if I were you. Do you have a safe place to go, like a clean and sober relative or friend? Your Dad needs help, and you can't help him. Think of the three C's: You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. Whether you are there or not will not help your Dad. Acutally, by staying with him, you are actually enabling him to drink. If you leave, you are the strong one and by doing so it might make him force himself to look at his problem. May I suggest that you give Alanon or ACOA a call? Alanon is a great program for friends and families of alcoholics, and ACOA is also a good program for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Take care of yourself. You can't help your Dad. He's got to make the decision to help himself. There really aren't any excuses anymore. It's 2012 and SO MUCH HELP out there for addicts and alcoholics. Detox centers, recovery houses, rehab/treatment facilities, meetings, counselling, and on and on it goes. That help is there for you too, as from what you described, it sounds like you need some help to recover from the way he's been treating you.
I wish you all the best. Remember,YOU first. Your father is choosing the alcohol before you. He's being selfish. Now it's YOUR turn to be selfish. Get help for YOU.