I should have been more clear. When we met, she and I used to go out for boneless buffalo wings and we'd consume things that were animal derived.
She had flirted with vegetarianism over the years and that is cool with me... to each their own, right? What is killing me is that SHE and SHE ALONE decided that the kids would be vegan. While it's admirable, it really puts a kink in living naturally and stress free daily.
As far as me not being able to stand up to my wife. You are half right. Trust me, I could've fought so many things over the years, but since I am in love with her... I let her have victory many a time. However, this bothers me because when the ice cream truck rolls by, I have to refer to it as a "meat truck" so the kids don't go wild.
She always argues "health" reasons for the vegan diet, but how healthy is it really? I've seen some pretty convincing arguments on both sides.
Either way, this is not what I intended life to be with children. Sometimes I want to just make a grilled cheese sandwich and not worry about running to the Whole Foods market to get "their" cheese, which is tasty, but now we're just buying separate foods from separate markets. It sucks. I just want to feel normal again.
You know... it would be the same if my wife decided that the kids would be sword swallowers. I don't do that, nor do I have any interest. (No insult to the sword swallowers of the word) It would be a HUGE inconvenience to have "sword" time around the house, you know?
I do know. And I can tell you're a very polite man. You need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs sometimes though. Understandably you allow your wife to get her way most of the time to keep the peace and because you're in love. However, because this is such an important issue you should consider standing your ground on this one. Even if it means a couple days a week that your children get to take a break from the strict vegan thing. Compromise is the key to any successful relationship. Sit your wife down and explain to her that you aren't happy with the decision she made and the two of you need to compromise because they are your children too. If she still refuses to listen feed them ice cream in front of her, let her pop a vein and get the hell over it. She'll live. Sometimes a man needs to stand up to his woman and this is one of those times. Good luck!
I agree with Hard_Candy, even when you use to let her get it her way most of the time, the fact that you asked about this in a public forum it's a possible sign that this issue is causing you some kind of problems, so you should talk to her.
It sounds stressful to have to refer to the ice truck as meat truck, because i assume it's not the only thing you have to hide from them.
I also assume your wife decided them to be vegan because she wants them to be healthy.
They are kids, therefore you want them to be raised healthy, but going vegan is not the only way to be, actually balancing meat and vegetables may be healthier. Ice cream shouldn't be harmful if eaten with measure, i think educating the kids on how to eat, rather than what to eat is better for them.
I hope this makes sense, English is not my native language.
Is it normal for a father to have no say in his kids diet?
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I should have been more clear. When we met, she and I used to go out for boneless buffalo wings and we'd consume things that were animal derived.
She had flirted with vegetarianism over the years and that is cool with me... to each their own, right? What is killing me is that SHE and SHE ALONE decided that the kids would be vegan. While it's admirable, it really puts a kink in living naturally and stress free daily.
As far as me not being able to stand up to my wife. You are half right. Trust me, I could've fought so many things over the years, but since I am in love with her... I let her have victory many a time. However, this bothers me because when the ice cream truck rolls by, I have to refer to it as a "meat truck" so the kids don't go wild.
She always argues "health" reasons for the vegan diet, but how healthy is it really? I've seen some pretty convincing arguments on both sides.
Either way, this is not what I intended life to be with children. Sometimes I want to just make a grilled cheese sandwich and not worry about running to the Whole Foods market to get "their" cheese, which is tasty, but now we're just buying separate foods from separate markets. It sucks. I just want to feel normal again.
You know... it would be the same if my wife decided that the kids would be sword swallowers. I don't do that, nor do I have any interest. (No insult to the sword swallowers of the word) It would be a HUGE inconvenience to have "sword" time around the house, you know?
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I do know. And I can tell you're a very polite man. You need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs sometimes though. Understandably you allow your wife to get her way most of the time to keep the peace and because you're in love. However, because this is such an important issue you should consider standing your ground on this one. Even if it means a couple days a week that your children get to take a break from the strict vegan thing. Compromise is the key to any successful relationship. Sit your wife down and explain to her that you aren't happy with the decision she made and the two of you need to compromise because they are your children too. If she still refuses to listen feed them ice cream in front of her, let her pop a vein and get the hell over it. She'll live. Sometimes a man needs to stand up to his woman and this is one of those times. Good luck!
I agree with Hard_Candy, even when you use to let her get it her way most of the time, the fact that you asked about this in a public forum it's a possible sign that this issue is causing you some kind of problems, so you should talk to her.
It sounds stressful to have to refer to the ice truck as meat truck, because i assume it's not the only thing you have to hide from them.
I also assume your wife decided them to be vegan because she wants them to be healthy.
They are kids, therefore you want them to be raised healthy, but going vegan is not the only way to be, actually balancing meat and vegetables may be healthier. Ice cream shouldn't be harmful if eaten with measure, i think educating the kids on how to eat, rather than what to eat is better for them.
I hope this makes sense, English is not my native language.
Good luck. :)