Is it normal for a father to bring down his daughter to encourage her?

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I have had enough. I have heard his harmful words way to many times. I try my best for this man... but hes still not impressed. Dont get me wrong i love him, and i know he means well. Its not like he treats me like shit...and my guess is that hes only saying these hate filled words is to encorage me to do better in the future...but, ...i just really cant take it anymore. My parents have three kids, including myself. One thing that my father loves to mention to me... "Your gonna end up just ike your sister." when he says that...i wanna just turn the other way around and walk away...but i know better. i just stand there and listen to those harmful words. My sister didnt have the best past, but now shes 20... with a healthy baby boy, and a "baby daddy"... Just because of her mistakes he thinks ima end up the same way? is that what he thinks of me? damn. Sometimes it gets to the point where i believe every word....sometimes it gets to the point wherei break down crying in front of him...and his responce is "are you crazy?! Your such a baby!" yeah...cause that jut makes me feel alot better... i want to prove myself, but i feel im nt capable anymore... he just completely killed my spirit inside... i want to tell my mom...but i feel it will be the wrong thng to do... im just a high school student... i want to be something great in the future...but i feel thats not possible anymore. Sometimes i even feel like he doesnt love me anymore... i guess now he can turn to my younger brother...since hes the only one he has left... and ill go find another father like figure...one that shows me love.
tell me... Is it normal for a father to bring down his daughter to encourage her?

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  • whaleworld
    11 years ago | pl

    i think it is normal but it's not okay.
    nobody deserves this.

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  • skinnybusiness
    13 years ago | pl

    My father used to be like this. Other girls dads arn't like this I would like to think. It's not right. You should encourage your loved ones, not put them down.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm not seeing where he's done anything wrong here. Try to get control of your emotions. If he didn't love you then he wouldn't care if you ended up "like your sister".

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago | pl

    yeah my dad was the same when i was a kid but i now realise that he spoke to me like that because i was acting like a spoilt little kid. if you want your dad to treat you like an adult, which you clearly are not, then you need to prove to him that you are going to act like an adult.
    he probably compares you to your sister because he can see the similarities between you and her and is scared that you are going to go down that same road. change your attitude towards your father and you will see his attitude change.
    it probably would be a good idea to talk to your mum about it and ask her what she thinks you should do and whatever she tells you to do, you should do it without question because once you start questioning things again is when the fighting is going to start again.
    you have to ask yourself, what are you doing to make your dad say these things because i dont think you are as innocent as what you are trying to portray yourself to look.

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