I'm 22 and even though I have friends my age, I tend to enjoy spending time with my older friends. I actually like them so much more! I find them very wise, inspirational, & just plain awesome! : )
The only thing I don't find normal about your story is that his friend is mean to him. Idk why he would want to hang out with someone who makes him upset!!! :(
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Yes, that is one of my concerns, that this girl doesn't seem to be a good friend. It has occurred to me that the question I really should have asked was "Is it normal for a thirteen year old girl to only want to associate with younger children, and to be the least mature one in the group"!
As for why the little chap wants to hang around her, I think that it is mostly because she is older, and friends with two of his older friends.
I think we will focus on the issue of how friends should treat each other in talking with my boy, and not stress the age issue.
Another thought I had was that maybe your son is just more mature & can relate to older children. I have a niece that is 8 and another that's just turned 12 & it's astonishing because the 8 year old is far more mature then the older one. She gravitates to spending more time with myself & other adults while the 12 year old would rather spend time with the youngsters.
And yes, that sounds like a great idea. It's hard to be a kid because you think everyone is your friend. It's only when you become an adult that you realize 99.9% of the people you have called your friends were FAR from it.
He sounds like a great kid & i'm sure he will figure it out, especially while having great parental support from yourself.
Is it normal for a child to have considerably older friends?
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I'm 22 and even though I have friends my age, I tend to enjoy spending time with my older friends. I actually like them so much more! I find them very wise, inspirational, & just plain awesome! : )
The only thing I don't find normal about your story is that his friend is mean to him. Idk why he would want to hang out with someone who makes him upset!!! :(
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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Yes, that is one of my concerns, that this girl doesn't seem to be a good friend. It has occurred to me that the question I really should have asked was "Is it normal for a thirteen year old girl to only want to associate with younger children, and to be the least mature one in the group"!
As for why the little chap wants to hang around her, I think that it is mostly because she is older, and friends with two of his older friends.
I think we will focus on the issue of how friends should treat each other in talking with my boy, and not stress the age issue.
Thank you again!
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No problem! : )
Another thought I had was that maybe your son is just more mature & can relate to older children. I have a niece that is 8 and another that's just turned 12 & it's astonishing because the 8 year old is far more mature then the older one. She gravitates to spending more time with myself & other adults while the 12 year old would rather spend time with the youngsters.
And yes, that sounds like a great idea. It's hard to be a kid because you think everyone is your friend. It's only when you become an adult that you realize 99.9% of the people you have called your friends were FAR from it.
He sounds like a great kid & i'm sure he will figure it out, especially while having great parental support from yourself.
Take care!! <33