Is it normal for a child to be weight-obsessed?

I'm very sorry to hear about your struggles, and I hope that someday you find the help that you need, the power to heal as well as you can. I'm especially sorry for the way your family handled it. When my family finally found out I had an anorexia, they were so loving and open and receptive. No negative backlash followed: they were only concerned for my health, and saddened that I couldn't see beyond numbers. In fact, it turns out my mother, aunt, grandmother, and great grandmother, all had eating disorders, and so they all could relate and help me through their experiences. I couldn't imagine going through that without their support. You are very strong and brave to be able to go one without such support, and for that I commend you. I hope (and know) you have the strength to continue to fight your demons. Some fears are hard to vanquish. I still can't with some of my own. But you can keep them at bay. And, remember, take pride in being healthy, not in thinness. Being healthy is something to be proud of. Getting through this is something to be proud of. You are more than a number, a value. Humans are not made of binary code.