I'm very sorry to hear about your cousin. I hope someday she'll find inner peace and the power to heal.
Anorexia isn't specifically about getting to a goal weight. A goal weight is just a side effect. Losing weight becomes addicting. Anorexia is a disorder typically found in perfectionists and those who feel they lack control in their lives. Since they feel they can't control anything else, they control what they can: what they put in their bodies. Seeing the number go down and down gives them a sense of power and control. To see it go up means they've lost control. The sad part is, the disorder is actually in control: not them. So it's not about a goal weight at all.
Skinny people have plenty to be sad about. Not all emotions are tied to physicality. Skinny may have divorced parents, may have been abused, may flunk a test, may get cancer. There are so many things we face in life that are in way tied to appearance. Anorexia isn't even about being sad about appearance. Its about all the emotions that can't be controlled outside of appearance, and again, they begin to control what they can. So anorexia manifests from such emotions that aren't even tied to what they look like at all. "Skinny" is also not synonymous with "healthy". Someone can be as skinny as can be, but all their organs would be shutting down because they have no fat or energy to keep them going. A person can be skinny and eat McDonalds everyday, and trash their insides. Someone can be curvier and be extraordinarily healthy.
Also, the world isn't focused specifically on obesity. It's obsessed with physicality within itself. So many tabloids rip on celebrities on either end of the spectrum, and use negative adjectives to describe both the heavy and the thin. I've been made fun of because of my thinness. The truth is we live in a world that will never be content with us, no matter how we look, because it will use our insecurities to control us. It doesn't matter if you're short, tall, thin, curvy, muscular or gaunt. It matters if you're insecure, because that's what society is exploiting. No one is immune. Because nothing is scary than a person confident in themselves, for then they have an independent means of power. The important part is to be content with ourselves, to be confident in our own ability, personality, and unique beauty. I hope you'll be able to see your unique qualities and beauties within yourself, and to love every inch of them. You seem like a nice person, and you deserve to reach such a content state.
You seem like such a nice person as well. I stand corrected. Anorexia is more than what it appears. You give me encouragement to realize that it's truly the personality that reflects who you are. I am so bombarded with stereotypes it's actually quite disturbing. Thank you very much for replying. My cousin is recovering as we speak.
Oh, thank you. I'm glad I could help, in anyway. I'm so sorry to hear about how you've been in a blitzkrieg of stereotypes, though. The pain of that must really be a wound on the soul. Remember you are much lovelier and stronger than anything negative someone has to say. A lot of the negativity that comes from people is what they really want to be saying to the mirror. It's the fault within the user of the words, no fault of yours. I'm glad to hear of their process of recovery! I hope they continue to make strides within this path.
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I'm very sorry to hear about your cousin. I hope someday she'll find inner peace and the power to heal.
Anorexia isn't specifically about getting to a goal weight. A goal weight is just a side effect. Losing weight becomes addicting. Anorexia is a disorder typically found in perfectionists and those who feel they lack control in their lives. Since they feel they can't control anything else, they control what they can: what they put in their bodies. Seeing the number go down and down gives them a sense of power and control. To see it go up means they've lost control. The sad part is, the disorder is actually in control: not them. So it's not about a goal weight at all.
Skinny people have plenty to be sad about. Not all emotions are tied to physicality. Skinny may have divorced parents, may have been abused, may flunk a test, may get cancer. There are so many things we face in life that are in way tied to appearance. Anorexia isn't even about being sad about appearance. Its about all the emotions that can't be controlled outside of appearance, and again, they begin to control what they can. So anorexia manifests from such emotions that aren't even tied to what they look like at all. "Skinny" is also not synonymous with "healthy". Someone can be as skinny as can be, but all their organs would be shutting down because they have no fat or energy to keep them going. A person can be skinny and eat McDonalds everyday, and trash their insides. Someone can be curvier and be extraordinarily healthy.
Also, the world isn't focused specifically on obesity. It's obsessed with physicality within itself. So many tabloids rip on celebrities on either end of the spectrum, and use negative adjectives to describe both the heavy and the thin. I've been made fun of because of my thinness. The truth is we live in a world that will never be content with us, no matter how we look, because it will use our insecurities to control us. It doesn't matter if you're short, tall, thin, curvy, muscular or gaunt. It matters if you're insecure, because that's what society is exploiting. No one is immune. Because nothing is scary than a person confident in themselves, for then they have an independent means of power. The important part is to be content with ourselves, to be confident in our own ability, personality, and unique beauty. I hope you'll be able to see your unique qualities and beauties within yourself, and to love every inch of them. You seem like a nice person, and you deserve to reach such a content state.
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You seem like such a nice person as well. I stand corrected. Anorexia is more than what it appears. You give me encouragement to realize that it's truly the personality that reflects who you are. I am so bombarded with stereotypes it's actually quite disturbing. Thank you very much for replying. My cousin is recovering as we speak.
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Oh, thank you. I'm glad I could help, in anyway. I'm so sorry to hear about how you've been in a blitzkrieg of stereotypes, though. The pain of that must really be a wound on the soul. Remember you are much lovelier and stronger than anything negative someone has to say. A lot of the negativity that comes from people is what they really want to be saying to the mirror. It's the fault within the user of the words, no fault of yours. I'm glad to hear of their process of recovery! I hope they continue to make strides within this path.