Is it normal for a boyfriend to be so oblivious & distant?
Hi guys! This is my first post. I just got out of a relationship and I'm really hurt. I haven't had many boyfriends so just wondering if this is normal!
My boyfriend was a sweetie when we first started dating, went to museums, diners, out to eat. As soon as quarantine started he became OBLIVIOUS and he immediately switched. I would text him what he was up to, if he wanted to do anything, but always would reply HOURS later bc he was so busy with his music album in quarantine and say "sorry let's do something later!" which is fine but it was EVERY time.
He would take HOURS to reply to texts sometimes, bc he was so obsessed with his music stuff, and when he did reply it was often just about his music. Two times, I texted something important and he responded almost 2 days LATER. The first was a job promotion, the 2nd was an important medical test result. He would reply the next Saturday NIGHT like nothing was wrong and go "sorry! didn't see this! that's great". I'm a very bubbly person so started to get hurt when he wouldn't respond.
He always went on trips with friends and his sister but I never got invited. He'd come back just casually say hi like he didn't even miss me.
He kept saying we'd go on trips or hiking or fun outdoor stuff every weekend but we never did!
I kept participating, but there is some abuse at my home so I would sometimes call him crying, or act very distant around him. He would always say "Sorry, I don't know how to help you." and then do nothing. I felt very hurt & stopped trying.
I asked him 2x if he still liked me and he said "of course I do!". But things didn't really change. I started to feel distant & got my feelings hurt so I brought it up and told him, but he said "I don't know how else to help you! We hang out, we eat dinner at my house, and we talk." and I just didn't know what to say.
The last 2 months I stopped trying and would just sit in silence in the car with him because I was so sad. I'm VERY shy so it's hard for me to communicate. He then broke up with me bc "we weren't getting any closer". I feel awful! Is this normal behavior for a guy? Or do I care too much?