Is it normal for a 19 year old..with a 29 year old?

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Hi everyone! Im 19 from Texas and I met this incredible man that I love sooo much. His name is *----. ---- and I officially met in October of 2009, but it was only briefly..we lost contact then one day out the blue in January 2010 he called me and we talked like we had never stopped communicating! I knew I liked him and he made me feel loved but I was in no way ready for a relationship at All. I had gotten out of bad relationship, after bad relationship since we had last spoken in those 2/3 months! Hey I know thats a short time but my thing is:

"'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all."

I know I want to love someone and I need to be loved. My mother and father are both deceased so I am soo lonely, no friends at all and little to no family. My life has never been stable..ANYWAYS..---- would constantly tell me he wants me to be his woman and how he want to be my man and all that but I would refuse. Not because of him being 29, but because I couldnt handle getting my heart broken again. Finally I gave in and said Yes! Then shortly after he told me "I want to tell you, I love you.." I was in total Awe and happiness. I love him too and he came to see me and everything. He makes me too happy and he makes me feel whole but he is unsure that I want to be with him like I say I do. I tell him over and over that I need him for me but he thinks Im just talking. Im not your Average Female or 19 year old. I love him but is this a normal feeling to know that I want to be with him forever even though he is 11 years older than me. I just turned 19 in January and he turns 30 this month..

Is It Normal?
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  • Rainforest
    13 years ago | pl

    Im glad you have found someone to make you happy!
    Dont get too scared of losing him and get really clingy though cos alot of guys start gettin freaked out by that, as in constantly asking him whats hes doing and being suspicious and obsessive.
    But about the age thing it's no problem at all, I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 30, it seems perfectly normal and I dont care what people think, its only a number but i think mentally theres little difference in age, depending on the person, hes a young thinkin 30 and im an older thinking 18 yr old.

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  • shakalaka
    10 years ago | pl

    It's normal. My sister married a guy who is 10 years older than her. I ever fell in love with someone much older than me. So, why not?

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  • Aewe101
    10 years ago | pl

    Yes this is very normal, but I think you need to work on your relationship skills and try to put yourself out there more if you feel lonely,

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  • *~ThePurplePixie~*
    11 years ago | pl

    I know this lady who's 20, and her boyfriend is 30.
    Go for it!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Its normal as long as you both are legal adults.

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  • Jessie735513
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm 17 and I love a 34 yr old, were not together though... Sadly :(

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  • kamilion
    13 years ago | pl

    i feel really bad for you. All i can tell you is that the things he said are the oldest lines in the book and every girls heard them. I'm not saying don't be with him, but if you were smart you would use your head and try to see through his bs and lines. I'm 29 and I can tell you there's a huge difference between any 19 and 29 year old I couldn't spend a full day with a 19 year old, let alone love them forever. but i would never say that to someone if i didn't really mean it. use your brain.

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  • swbicehbg11
    13 years ago | pl

    you are normal 11 years isnt that much, my sister's boyfriend is 19 years older than her and shes 19 atm, but then again he is the person i hate most in the world. you might be trying to fill a gap in your life subconciously i hate to go on about psychological stuff but it could be it. if you love him, go for it. sorry about your loneliness xoxox

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  • numpangnyampah
    13 years ago | pl

    Older man brings more comfort, i understand that perfectly..

    i date a 42 years old guy, when i was 22. And we have no problem back then.

    He can give you a lot of input, 'cause he had much more experience. Something that younger guy cant give.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    The difference in your age is not your problem here, it's you.

    Seems like you need to fall in love with yourself FIRST before you commit yourself to this guy. You shouldn't use a relationship with a man to cure your loneliness, otherwise you will be plagued with relationship problems for the rest of your life.

    Master the art of making friends with people first, then move on to something more complex like a serious relationship with a man. If you have a difficult time with friendships, then that means you are either living in the middle of nowhere where there are no friends to be made, or your emotional maturity is not fully developed enough.

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