Is it normal for a 25 year old to be friends with a 39 year old?

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I'm 25 years old and I've been thinking about cutting ties with a friend of mine. So I met this 39 year old a couple years ago at work and within the past 6 months we've become quite close friends. Lately, however, I've noticed it's become really hard to relate to her. I'm in grad school, and all my other friends are also in grad school so they understand that homework is a priority. Since she never took any college courses, she doesn't understand this. She also has three kids, the first of which is about my age at 20 years old. The other two are teenagers. The more I think about it, the stranger it feels to be friends with someone whose kids aren't much younger than you. She also seems to have some sort of endless savings account, as all she does is spend money and I've found that when I hang out with her, I blow through money pretty quickly too. I don't think she remembers what it was like to be a broke 25 year old. All my other friends at my age understand this, so when we hang we end up saving money. I just feel like it's harder for her to relate to my struggles since she's so much older, and this has turned out to be a negative force in my life, as I'm always distracted from school and homework when we hang out, and I spend too much money when we're together. In the end I just feel like it's not normal and not convenient for someone my age to be friends with someone so much older. What do you think?

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    I'd certainly try to spend much less time with her. She sounds like too much of a distraction.

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  • RollingTide
    6 years ago

    I'm 23 and have a friend who is 52. He's also got a 30 year old girlfriend though so he's a young soul. He's one of my closest friends though.

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  • Ratmanunbanned
    6 years ago

    Unless you are fucking her why hang with her? You should at least get a blow job from time to time.

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome
    6 years ago

    I'm 40 and I have a friend who is 74.

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    It's the financial / lifestyle discrepancy that's the issue, not the ages.
    I'm 50, have friends from teens to 80s and no problems because we're all of similar lifestyle and income. (creative and skint!)
    By the same rule there are old friends my exact age who I never see because they think nothing of a £50 night out and I couldn't keep up with that!

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