"I mean why can you not be with a guy and not have to be in love with every single one of them."
Perhaps your version of politeness is another persons' version of flirting.
Maybe you are inadvertently sending out mixed messages to them. I'm not saying you are to blame for they way they act, only that there is a possibility you bring on the unwanted attention to yourself with your actions. So maybe there is more that you can do to prevent these situations from occurring in the first place which are making you unhappy.
I do not kiss them they try kiss me and the others followand than one gets mad since they see the other one and say "no thats my girl". A few times I did walk away once and let them fight yes it was messed up and I was not solving the issue but I took the chance to aviod the issue. All of them try kiss me wuth or without my permission they never ask either the only one I asked was my boyfreind and I did not care since I always had ask my boyfreind he never without permission i
This is my advice (take it or leave it), because you asked for it by making this story and posting it on this website:
I still think it is because you are somehow (probably with body language) teaching them to treat you that way.
I've seen many many girls like you do this to boys. That doesn't mean you've asked for it or want it to happen, only that you are the common denominator here so it's time to start being proactive instead of complaining. Stop playing an easy mark for them and take responsibility for the way that others view you and therefore treat you.
Guys don't just take advantage of girls in that way for no reason at all. The fact that you are trying to make it seem as though it is happening that way, shows you need to open your mind to this a little more.
And no, you won't be able to prevent every single guy from falling for you, but you won't have a whole flock of them getting the message you are sending them confused with romantic interest. It really is that simple.
While I will take your piont that I might be doing something wrong and I do not know what. I will argue that men take advantage of girls all the time its rape and they also kidnap poor women in alot of countrys that they promise a job but just rape them. They kidnap little girls walking home alone and some tgem turn up dead. So you can not say men never take advatage and players as they are called will munipulate women to get sex or a date aswell as abusive husbands and some men will tell everyone they screwed a chick even if they did not to look cool in school. So that statement is false. However some women play men aswell in some cases in my case I just am trying to be polite aince I feel I ow them something they are my freinds. However I am too the piont I am not sure hiw deal with it.
Well I just say please, thank you, hello, nice to see you. Most my friends are really needy so they get upset if they do not all get a hug from everyone so I hug everyone once when I see them. If I pull back they get upset and ask what’s wrong.
I have a few friends who do not want date me but I have little contact with those friends anymore and so I’m stuck with the love dovey ones.
I would not care as much if I was not put under so much pressure and they would stop fighting but it is not working like that. Ironically they are all friends with each other too but they end up fighting over me so I feel bad.
So They like each other but fighting over me so I ended up picking the guy I did not want at all and I have the most control over. I did love having him around but I have not seen him anymore makes me sad.
Also everyone started to wonder why I would hug everyone except certien boys since they always try kiss me and the rest get mad and I feel like I have to babysit children.
I hate it so much. I hate things always end up this way. Sure I liked for once in my life chocolates on valentines which I never get but I had like 3 other guys after me aswell and I say no but they do not understand what "No thankyou means".
I have to be nice to one of them since he did favors for my family and my parents want me marry him. However I jumped out of this and he still will not take a hint even when I told him I was dating another guy who I infact kissed in front of him.
I don't know for sure because I'm not there to watch you do it and I only have your version of events to go by.
It's just something about the way that you describe this whole situation... I have a feeling that you are at least half-way responsible for the way these guys are treating you. Just make sure you're not sending mixed signals in the future (hugs/kisses/touching are a mixed message) and eventually you'll have nothing to complain about, that's all I'm saying.
IS it normal everyone of my male freinds ends up wanting to date me?
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"I mean why can you not be with a guy and not have to be in love with every single one of them."
Perhaps your version of politeness is another persons' version of flirting.
Maybe you are inadvertently sending out mixed messages to them. I'm not saying you are to blame for they way they act, only that there is a possibility you bring on the unwanted attention to yourself with your actions. So maybe there is more that you can do to prevent these situations from occurring in the first place which are making you unhappy.
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I do not kiss them they try kiss me and the others followand than one gets mad since they see the other one and say "no thats my girl". A few times I did walk away once and let them fight yes it was messed up and I was not solving the issue but I took the chance to aviod the issue. All of them try kiss me wuth or without my permission they never ask either the only one I asked was my boyfreind and I did not care since I always had ask my boyfreind he never without permission i
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This is my advice (take it or leave it), because you asked for it by making this story and posting it on this website:
I still think it is because you are somehow (probably with body language) teaching them to treat you that way.
I've seen many many girls like you do this to boys. That doesn't mean you've asked for it or want it to happen, only that you are the common denominator here so it's time to start being proactive instead of complaining. Stop playing an easy mark for them and take responsibility for the way that others view you and therefore treat you.
Guys don't just take advantage of girls in that way for no reason at all. The fact that you are trying to make it seem as though it is happening that way, shows you need to open your mind to this a little more.
And no, you won't be able to prevent every single guy from falling for you, but you won't have a whole flock of them getting the message you are sending them confused with romantic interest. It really is that simple.
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While I will take your piont that I might be doing something wrong and I do not know what. I will argue that men take advantage of girls all the time its rape and they also kidnap poor women in alot of countrys that they promise a job but just rape them. They kidnap little girls walking home alone and some tgem turn up dead. So you can not say men never take advatage and players as they are called will munipulate women to get sex or a date aswell as abusive husbands and some men will tell everyone they screwed a chick even if they did not to look cool in school. So that statement is false. However some women play men aswell in some cases in my case I just am trying to be polite aince I feel I ow them something they are my freinds. However I am too the piont I am not sure hiw deal with it.
Well I just say please, thank you, hello, nice to see you. Most my friends are really needy so they get upset if they do not all get a hug from everyone so I hug everyone once when I see them. If I pull back they get upset and ask what’s wrong.
I have a few friends who do not want date me but I have little contact with those friends anymore and so I’m stuck with the love dovey ones.
I would not care as much if I was not put under so much pressure and they would stop fighting but it is not working like that. Ironically they are all friends with each other too but they end up fighting over me so I feel bad.
So They like each other but fighting over me so I ended up picking the guy I did not want at all and I have the most control over. I did love having him around but I have not seen him anymore makes me sad.
Also everyone started to wonder why I would hug everyone except certien boys since they always try kiss me and the rest get mad and I feel like I have to babysit children.
I hate it so much. I hate things always end up this way. Sure I liked for once in my life chocolates on valentines which I never get but I had like 3 other guys after me aswell and I say no but they do not understand what "No thankyou means".
I have to be nice to one of them since he did favors for my family and my parents want me marry him. However I jumped out of this and he still will not take a hint even when I told him I was dating another guy who I infact kissed in front of him.
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I don't know for sure because I'm not there to watch you do it and I only have your version of events to go by.
It's just something about the way that you describe this whole situation... I have a feeling that you are at least half-way responsible for the way these guys are treating you. Just make sure you're not sending mixed signals in the future (hugs/kisses/touching are a mixed message) and eventually you'll have nothing to complain about, that's all I'm saying.
Good luck dealing with them. :)