I read it and I thought about it and I believe that you could have handled it better. You ended your friendship with her and just started ignoring her without giving her a summary of your feelings. Sure, she might have reacted the same way, but I think that you still owed her some explanation as to why you'd wish to end your friendship to her. If she is not mature enough to handle it then that would have been her problem but you did not give her the closure, you left her in the dark and of course she's going to be upset.
You have every right to discontinue a friendship that is causing you great difficulty but it would have been an act of courtesy on your part to provide her with closure rather than simply ignoring her, which is often a very ambiguous act and could mean anything.
ofcourse he could have handled it better but you are forgetting the fact that the girl in this story was obviously a wacko. The fact that she didn't even pick up on the fact that he was ignoring her and that she was a 'despressing mess' to begin with should be enough of an indication that the girl was socially awkward and just couldn't handle the fact that he finally stopped listening to her BS.
Indeed not as a direct statement no, but when combined with passing time and letting the 'relationship' gradually fade, it is an effective way to make feelings go away. I have done such a thing, and even though I am not aware of her mindset and opinion at the time, when we (years later) discussed the issue she seemed quite alright with it.
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I read it and I thought about it and I believe that you could have handled it better. You ended your friendship with her and just started ignoring her without giving her a summary of your feelings. Sure, she might have reacted the same way, but I think that you still owed her some explanation as to why you'd wish to end your friendship to her. If she is not mature enough to handle it then that would have been her problem but you did not give her the closure, you left her in the dark and of course she's going to be upset.
You have every right to discontinue a friendship that is causing you great difficulty but it would have been an act of courtesy on your part to provide her with closure rather than simply ignoring her, which is often a very ambiguous act and could mean anything.
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ofcourse he could have handled it better but you are forgetting the fact that the girl in this story was obviously a wacko. The fact that she didn't even pick up on the fact that he was ignoring her and that she was a 'despressing mess' to begin with should be enough of an indication that the girl was socially awkward and just couldn't handle the fact that he finally stopped listening to her BS.
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Silence does not always convey as clear of a message as people think that it does.
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Indeed not as a direct statement no, but when combined with passing time and letting the 'relationship' gradually fade, it is an effective way to make feelings go away. I have done such a thing, and even though I am not aware of her mindset and opinion at the time, when we (years later) discussed the issue she seemed quite alright with it.