Is it normal cant take a joke or joking around

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when i was younger i was a fat little kid who didn't fit in w/the crowd based on the way i dressed/weight. got teased a lot pretty much all throughout elementary school - high school but after graduation i lost a crap load of weight, look pretty darn good (gained some self confidence) and consider myself a people person, like to socialize and be around people..but i cant handle joking/sarcasm, or slight criticism either. being a guy its even tougher since most guys joke around and do teasing here and there..anyone else experience that

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago | pl

    I understand why you would feel this way considering your pass. You don't like jokes to be at a persons expense, because you know it can hurt. I actually think this is a good quality and probably makes you into a really nice person. However, try to lighten up a bit if you can. Be able to laugh at yourself and remind yourself that these people are all FRIENDS and are just poking fun at one another. They really are just jokes, no harm intended.

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  • Dawn
    13 years ago | pl

    Lighten up fattie

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  • ruralfrights
    13 years ago | pl

    Yes, I've been there...years back. I was either very vain or very insulted. Not much inbetween. Gorgeous or gross. And it all depended on others reactions to me. The truth as I see it: you've madelife-changing changes. Can fit in the front seat of the roller coaster without having to be removed and sent down the "fat stairs". You can order at a drive thru without having to explain to the guy at the window that that whole two bags of food is for 10 of your friends. But self-esteem is something different, now that I finally have some. Losing weight and getting a date after a point, is no different than the doughnut days as the problem is centered in your mind. No matter how slim, rich, goodlooking, college degrees, women you get, you may keep feeling inferior. The key is to overcome the inferiority rather than looking for acceptance and endorsements from others. No matter how many compliments you receive, you will always have that one single critic which you will hear louder than all the other kind words. It becomes perfectionism...to keep you from ever feeling the way you felt before. One lick of criticism may mean to you that your still that old person.

    You need to find what makes you think you have to be perfect in EVERYONES eyes, including your own. Get to the heart of that and you will begin to heal, rather than obsess over being perfect.

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  • deanob
    13 years ago | pl

    Definitely must learn to handle criticism and laugh at yourself, it is a natural part of male bonding, and the less you like it, the more likely you will be the target.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    You sound like shanedawson the same thing happened to him!!!!!

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  • beagle
    13 years ago | pl

    I think you should try really hard to laugh at yourself sometimes, everyone should be able to take a bit of criticism without getting mad.

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