Basically, the problem is you love her as more than a friend.
There's no way you can continue being her friend with the feelings you have, especially if she's in a relationship with someone she could possibly become serious with. You can try, but you'll have to accept that she'll need to spend more time with her partner to build a strong bond to help love grow between them.
Also, you can try to talk to her about all of this, and toss in your theory of him being jealous of you; but unless she's showing legitimate signs of emotional abuse, then you can cross out the idea of him controlling her. In the end, if she's just innocently infatuated with him, and you come at her with this, "You're hurting me by not hanging out with me. Is he jealous of us," nonsense, then you'll come off as needy and making her choose when she shouldn't have to.
I suggest either give them space to be a couple, and just do your own thing until the infatuation phase cools down or disappears entirely, or get to know her boyfriend and see if he's someone you can become friends with.
Thanks. I am going to wait and see how serious they are. I can't confront her about her feelings for me now. We had years to sort it out and never did. The boyfriend won this time.
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Basically, the problem is you love her as more than a friend.
There's no way you can continue being her friend with the feelings you have, especially if she's in a relationship with someone she could possibly become serious with. You can try, but you'll have to accept that she'll need to spend more time with her partner to build a strong bond to help love grow between them.
Also, you can try to talk to her about all of this, and toss in your theory of him being jealous of you; but unless she's showing legitimate signs of emotional abuse, then you can cross out the idea of him controlling her. In the end, if she's just innocently infatuated with him, and you come at her with this, "You're hurting me by not hanging out with me. Is he jealous of us," nonsense, then you'll come off as needy and making her choose when she shouldn't have to.
I suggest either give them space to be a couple, and just do your own thing until the infatuation phase cools down or disappears entirely, or get to know her boyfriend and see if he's someone you can become friends with.
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Thanks. I am going to wait and see how serious they are. I can't confront her about her feelings for me now. We had years to sort it out and never did. The boyfriend won this time.