Is it normal, as a straight guy, to have feelings for your best friend

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I'm 21 and lately I've been getting really close to a friend that may or may not be straight. May or may not be straight because I've known him for a while but, not so long ago, he's been wanting to hang out with me more and acts kind of awkward around me (like crushing awkward). I find him staring at me sometimes. I'm about 80% sure he's attracted to me by a lot of things he does. But here's the thing: him wanting to hang out with me more makes me feel like he genuinely admires me or loves me cause he always wants to hear my opinion on things he's curious about, we share music, articles, ideas, whatever we find interesting. So I've really come to like this guy A LOT. I think about him constantly and I wish I could always hang out with him. He's also a couple of years younger than me so there's that mentor/little brother type feeling (I don't have a little brother but I always wanted one). I always fall for girls (now guys, I guess) that show genuine interest in me. I love that and it really turns me on. But now it's weird cause honestly, I don't really want to have sex with a guy (just the thought of fucking or getting fucked by a guy turns me off) but I'm so attracted to this particular guy. It's like I wish I could just hug him and just feel him close to me for a while without it having to be sexual. I try to make physical contact with him just to let him know I'm quite attracted, too. I rub his back for a sec or scratch his head quick. Just random little things to show affection. I don't really consider myself bisexual but this is the first time I've ever felt so attracted to a guy and it's killing me cause I'm not sure if telling him how I feel would take it to a sexual level cause it just sounds so gay. Come to think about it, if I were to ever do something with another guy (I'm a really open guy, just need the motivation), it would definitely be with him. So, to all men reading this, have you ever felt this way about a close friend?

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  • mrfairfax
    10 years ago | pl

    Your feelings are more normal than most people would admit. This may help you to understand yourself better: http://were-not-gay.tumblr.com/

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  • MmmHmm
    10 years ago | pl

    I am having the EXACT SAME feelings as you right now with a close friend of mine (we're both 18 and male). I do not want to be in a relationship, though. I like him as a friend, but I find him very attractive and wouldn't mind fooling around together (not so far as having sexual intercourse, but I wouldn't mind pleasuring him in other ways). I talked to him in a very vague way about the way I'm feeling, and he didn't seem to have the same feelings, so I'm thinking it's just me, and I will have to wait for the feeling to pass.

    I still enjoy his company as a friend, and he also asks me to scratch his back or rub his neck sometimes. We also hug goodbye almost every time. I think we're just becoming very close "bros" and I may be confusing my own feelings with those of attraction when I could just be very friendly-in-love with my friend.

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  • Legion
    10 years ago | pl

    I was in a similar situation, except My best friend is a girl. (im a guy). I can only imagine how much harder it is for you, being another guy, especially since you seem slightly confused that you have these feelings.

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  • SangoNyappy
    10 years ago | pl

    So basically you wouldn't mind relationship but don't want sex right? Maybe you could just ask him if he's gay and then you could just ask him out. That actually worked for my friend

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  • zelskid
    10 years ago | pl

    You are bisexual. This is your first gay infatuation. Try to feel him out on whether he is interested without losing him as a friend.

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