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Is it normal for me to want to seek answers from a person to gain closure and peace of mind or is it better to just move on?

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    It's normal to want to do it.

    Whether you will actually get closure from it is impossible to say. I'm sorry, I know that sucks.

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  • BlindSpot
    5 years ago

    It's not always the case that with answers you gain closure. Sometimes the answers don't make any fucking sense. If you feel you want to express your feelings to that person and get it off your chest, go ahead, it's what I usually do, but I've also realised, there's much more dignity in silence.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    It depends on the situation but it seems most times it’s best to just close the door and not look back rather than reopening a wound because that can cause more problems. When something goes wrong I feel it’s normal to want to figure it out but that’s not always the best option for many reasons. Sometimes it’s best not to know and point more toward the future but it can kinda depend on the person for some having closure helps them and for others like me it’s best to move on and forget.

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    • Donna123
      5 years ago

      My dilemma is I'm resisting the urge to be totally upfront with a person about I how feel about a situation (not a relationship) that we were in together and the longer I hold onto it the more I think about it.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Do whatever you think is best. If it’s to the point of bothering you and constantly a worry then it may be best to look for answers you may not get them and it could not always have a good outcome but if having closure works for you go ahead and try if that’s what you want. Who knows maybe it’ll be a weight off your shoulders you don’t know until you try and what’s the worst that could happen?

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  • sissycakes
    5 years ago

    context will tell more on this. if something is bothering you without closure seek it unless ..... the list could go on and on. unless you will be in danger. unless it would break your heart. unless it would ruin your current life. etc. on and on forever. you know the context so think really hard about the consequences.

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  • Shackleford96
    5 years ago

    I think it's normal to want to, yeah. I find it interesting that we live in a time where it's very likely that you can get into contact with someone if you want to. There was a time when relationships ended and you usually didn't ever hear from that person again. That sort of permanence has greatly diminished because of social media (mostly Facebook).

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  • McBean
    5 years ago

    Partial closure is usually a best case situation. If you got ghosted, you will get zero closure making it harder to move on. You may have to write your own happy ending, like how the failure made you a better person.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    You may not get closure if your ask for an explanation, but you definitely won't if you do nothing. If the situation is recent you may feel differently as time passes, but if dwelling on it is affecting you a lot then ask for the answers you seek.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I think it's normal to want answers from someone in order to have closure, but it is not always that simple. Perhaps you should weigh the pros, and cons of seeking closure this way before you do anything. The answers you seek may not always bring closure, and there's not necessarily only one way to get closure. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees about this sort of thing, and some people never get the closure they so desperately crave.

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