Is it my fault ?

I’m dating, or at least trying.
I’m a shy girl but I do put convosation in when I’m dating and that, I’m still getting used to affection, but to me, being shy that comes with time, I kiss yeah... but touching even if it’s a hand on a hand I struggle with and I’m scared it’s pushing the men away.

After the third date a man put his hand on my leg and I didn’t respond we kissed afterward but I just get so tense, we spoke the week after that then we haven’t seen each other since.

I’m scared they’re leaving cause they’re wanting more... or cause I’m being weird ? But I’m just being me

Is It Normal?
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  • Be frank and honest. Tell the guy that you are not comfortable with touching and that you think that you need more time that it has nothing to do with them.

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  • OH, hi! I was wondering where you'd been, you're 3-dates British girl! Don't worry too much, that one guy was just that - ONE guy.

    Keep things at your own pace, you'll eventually meet someone who is fit for you.

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    • Haha?! What the fuck you on about

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      • Haha, I mistook you for the girl who's been talking for the last 6 months about her 3-date relationship that didn't work out.

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  • They are probably picking up on you feeling uncomfortable, and think there is something wrong about them, or that you don't like them.

    Keep practing, it will get easier. Maybe be more physical with people you know, to get used to body contact (not sexually).

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    • So it is me?

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      • It's not just you, they chose how to respond to you.

        You have to find someone who is compatible. They're out there.

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