Is it incest or wrong to want to have sex with a step child

I had an affair with my step daughter for a year and a half.
My wife is twice my age and her daughter is almost 5 years younger than I am. I was signing her out of school and going to parent teacher meetings, and all the things a parent does when we started.
She seemed into it, but now she says she never wanted it but didnt' know how to stop it. Now my marriage is on the rocks and I want to fix it.
My wife says it was wrong becuse she was my step child. Child welfare says it falls under the criminal sex offence laws.
Am I sick? Was it incest? I am really confused and need some advice.

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  • theabider

    I think this is pretty normal, considering you are much closer to your step-daughter's age than your wife. Your wife should have known she was only asking for trouble, marrying a young buy when she has a young daughter. If you were 40, I would be with the haters saying how sick and abusive this was. But you were only about 20 when in started, so I say, get a divorce, and make a new happy life with the daughter. Your mistake was marrying her mother, not her, in the first place.

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    • theincrediblemachine

      She was 15 and I was 22.

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      • theabider

        Your original story clearly says, "her daughter is almost 5 years younger than I am." Which one of us can't do math?

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  • Andy20.

    Ur not related this is not incest

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  • pink_sparkles

    It isn't incest at all. You're not blood related

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  • I think it's normal me and my sister both have enjoyed doing it with our step dad for years now

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  • Adam26

    I'm not gonna deny I find certain teens attractive but just think had this been your son how would u feel if your wife did it with him.

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  • pikaaapower

    It's not incest at all; the two of you aren't blood related. It is wrong though, considering that you're having an affair with your wives daughter... I don't know if this is still going on or if you and your wife are on the right track again, but if it is, listen to 'theabider,' divorce your wife and get a happy life with her daughter :) that's all i have to say, dude. Good luck with everything ):

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  • belbel000

    not incest but morally wrong

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  • Monogamy_Sucks

    Sorry i re read the post and saw ur age and all,wellll i thought u was some kinda 50 plus guy.What u did was not right of course,u cheated and molested a teen but its ok God will punish u i guesss

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  • Monogamy_Sucks

    Im surprised ur wife is even still married to you in the first place!I think your wife should find a toy boy and kik ur wrinkly azz outta the house

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  • mondo4

    its not incest but it is child abuse...

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  • BoredGuy

    its not completely normal, but not that off the charts. you are not really blood relatives and, assuming, she was at age of concent. no matter, if i was your wife i would ofc file for divorce.

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    • theincrediblemachine

      She was 15 turning 16 a couple of months after it started...

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      • curiousinomaha

        If she was 15, it was most likely illegal. If found guilty you are probably looking at prison time and listing on the worthless sex-offender registry for up to life. Whether it is "normal" or not, what's the definition of normal? "normal: 1. conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural. 2. serving to establish a standard." By definition, this is probably not normal, but it is far more common than a lot of society realized and/or admits. If she really didn't want to do it, it is definitely bad no matter how you look at it. If she did want to, she may be saying different out of fear of getting in to trouble herself. The latter is pretty common, too.

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  • WinstonTasteGood

    You help her get her drivers license so she has to bang you. Sounds fair. Sicko...

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    • theincrediblemachine

      I did not say i did it so she had to bang me. I said it was one of the things I did that was typical of a step father, but when I was doing it we, and I state again WE used the driving lesson time for making out and just spending time together.

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      • theincrediblemachine

        Maybe you should read the first post. Try starting there before you call me a sicko...it was much more complicated than that. And right now I need to know if my wife will ever forgive me, will she ever stop treating me like shit. Can I save my marriage?

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        • jonandjanedoe85

          or dead...

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          • jonandjanedoe85

            I hope she reports it. She's still within most states statute of limitations.

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        • jonandjanedoe85

          I sure hope your wife didn't forgive you. She was a minor when this all started. A consenting adult is one thing, but taking advantage of a child... you should be in jail

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  • theincrediblemachine

    I was not at the time interested in her daughter due to her age. Prior to this I saw her daughter as too young. My wife and I had built a close relationship and moved it to the next level. I didn't really expect to get involved with my step daughter. Thing is she was just too tempting I guess. She was heart broken over a boyfriend that dumped her and her mom had asked me to try to talk to her because she was very depressed. I told her they guy was stupid because she was beautiful, that she had a great ass (something he said she did not) and I guess things just happened.
    I think I did love my wife before all of this. But I did fall in love with my step daughter too. For a long time the only way I could have sex with my wife was to make out with the step daughter and then fantasize about fucking her when I was fucking my wife. Now my wife tells me she thinks I still do it. I need to know if this is a common or normal thing. I helped her get her drivers licence and helped with the planning for her older sisters grad, all tings a step dad does. So is it normal to want to have sex with her? Is it normal to perform oral sex on her? To try to tease and taunt her (and I admit I did this with telling her things like i did't think she had the guts to try) into giveing me a blow job (she did try 3 times).
    Am I sick?

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