Is it gay to accidentally fap to a transgender female model on instagram?

She passes 100% as a girl though and I only found out later on. And she's really hot.
Also the other day I looked at a picture of someone else whom I thought was a girl and I got a boner and later on I found out it was actually a very feminine looking man.
I feel intimidated because these are multiple times that I've been into someone with XY chromosomes. Does that make me gay??

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Loooool! This post is hilarous. First world problems mate, first world problems. The fact that you care so much if it is gay is funny. Only you know if your gay or not. Some people have told me that using but plugs makes me gay and I dont give a fuck. I don't have sex with guys and am not attracted to them so i'm ain't gay. Dont worry about it mate.

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    • Alvex

      I agree. He's worrying too much about being labeled gay. First of all, since he believed that it was a woman at the time of attraction, that's not gay anyway. Second, even if he is gay, homosexuality has become alot more tolerated in today's modern world, and it's not something anymore that should affect one's life.

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        Well said mate! This guy has nothing to worry about. He did probably make dozens of people online laugh at his expense, including me, though. This post cracked me up so much when I saw the title.

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  • curious-bunny

    So considering yoyr using proper terms and pronouns you clearly see her as a woman and since she's a woman and your a man how is it gay? Men who like us are not gay. They are straight. Most of us don't even use our penises anyways so it's litterally dude getting ass so to speak. It's not gay. Gay is looking at the guy in front of and beibg like yea I want his balls dragging across my face. Now thats gay as fuck.

    Liking trans women = straight unless your a woman of course.
    Liking men as a man =gay.
    If someone comes off as a woman, looks like a woman smells like a woman etc. How is it gay if she doesn't have a vagina? Shed a woman simple

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    • my logic behind my question was that maybe it means i like masculine features on women and that's gay. although i wouldn't generally say that's the case. but what you said makes sense

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  • If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, its probably a gold fish.

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    • Indigo1

      lol see that's what I was talking about. we need you here stain

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      • ta bud

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  • Carfentanil

    You thought it was a woman. How does that make it gay?

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  • Boojum

    Chill, dude. You're way too worried about an invisible nametag that you think you have to wear, when it doesn't even exist. I suspect you're also preoccupied with appearances and how people present on the internet.

    Sexuality is complicated, but most people these days should understand that sexuality is a spectrum, and not an either-or thing. I realised a very long time ago that I'm way over on the het end of the scale, but I can imagine being sexually attracted to some hypothetical guy. I've never actually met a guy like that, but I accept that the possibility is there, and I don't see how that makes me in any way gay. I wouldn't be attracted to a man, I'd simply be attracted to a particular person who happened to be a man.

    Despite what lots of people want to believe because it makes things easy, life is not all black and white. Your interests are what they are, and as long as you're not acting in a self-destructive, dishonest, or abusive way, you should just try to accept that you are who you are, and the people you find attractive are just the people you find attractive. You shouldn't let anyone shove you in a neat little pigeon hole, and you shouldn't cram yourself in one either.

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    • thanks. It’s not so much that I’d care if I was gay (which I’m not), I just want to be in the clear about it

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  • Protagoras

    I know what you mean, I use dating apps and usually it’s pretty easy to spot someone transgender, but sometimes i’ll see someone on there that I think is a cis girl but It will say in the description that she’s transgender, even when I take a double look at her photos I would have never guessed. I wouldn’t say you are gay though.

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    • great thanks

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      • You're thanking some stranger on the Internet for telling you that you're not gay!! So ridiculous.

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        • I'm thanking a stranger on the internet for defining the term "gay" better. It's not that I'm worried that I'm gay like i said i just want to know

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  • Cliche1234

    'Accidentally' fap? Go fuck yourself.

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    • No, obviously I didn’t accidentally fap, but you get what I mean. At the time I didn’t know

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        To fap or not to fap! There is no accident!

        -every guy ever except priests

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  • rice1047

    big gay

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  • Why do you care if it’s gay or not lol.

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    • I just want to know, I'm not homophobic or anything gay people are cool but i don't think i am one myself

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  • Jattai

    What I find interesting is that this kind of thing is only a problem in western cultures where men seem to be insecure and judgemental of each other. In Thailand lady boys are just a normal part of every day life. They are seen as the third gender. Neither male nor female. Many so called "straight" men visit Thailand just so they can have sex with ladyboys.

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  • Jattai

    Do you currently have or desire to have sex with men? If yes you're gay. If not you're not. It's quite simple.
    PS there is no such thing as an accidental fap

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    • not the fapping part was accidental the fact that she's got xy chromosomes was accidental. i do not want to have sex with men. but i might accept her having a dick because she's unusually good looking other than that.

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      • Jattai

        Just do whatever you feel like and fuck what anyone else thinks. You only live once, why live life with one hand tied behind your back?

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  • curious-bunny

    Exactly!!! In all honesty most gay men hate us there's like a war going on its weird as fuck. I get more shit fron gay men than I do anyone

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    • leggs91200

      At your age, your peers are more full of drama. I am over 40 and the gay men my age I encounter never give me a hard time.
      Young gay males, though gay, still have to prove how manly and tough they are. Young testosterone causes men to act stupid, to feel like they gotta prove something.

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    • mauzi

      Not trying to be rude but straight guys are gonna be at least a little upset if they are blind enough to fall in love with the pretty face/fake tits, then she whips out a dick at sex time. In order to not be bothered by it, they would have to be either (if youre "liberal") pansexual or demisexual - the latter which is rare for men, or (if youre "conservative") just plain bisexual.

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      • curious-bunny

        Yea there's a rule about tgat, you tell the guy quick about it. Yes it's uncomfertable bit it avoids problems. Only a bitch doesbt say before things get to far along. But yes you are right entirely. Personally im all natural. No fake boobs. Most trans women who do get them are in rhe adult industry wich doesn't allow them to take hormones cause you needing a working dick. For example nothing comes out when I cum. That would be bad for a show you know? Like my testies are litterly the suze if small grapes. It's insane. That's not hot. Guys wabt to see big throbbing sticks between our legs in that and on hrt that's most likely not gonna happen. Anyways us girls on meds usually have natural boobs and what not.

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        • mauzi

          Yeah, I get that it's respectful to call them straight if they're into the opposite sex from what they've transitioned to, but I don't see how 100% straight people would be able to be sexually attracted once it got down to nudity. Nothing wrong with not being 100% straight so I also don't get why people are so worried about accepting that (like all these other posts saying "Im a straight guy but i like to suck dicks").

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          • curious-bunny

            Well to be honest alot of us myself included have very feminine bodies. Like say I was standing butt ass naked next to another girl who was cis naked as well of average girl build and we both coveted our genitals in the same fashion you would not know I have a penis unless you can see it in my facial bone structure. And even then it's an iffy thing. So beyond all that it's litterally we are women with dicks. That's it. So I get how some are put off by that little difference it's ok it's normal but yea you'll still be holding a woman's body and so on. I'm not saying I'm a 10 by any means, but when it comes down to it I look like the girl next door. Just another girl you know?

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          • curious-bunny

            And yea the people caught up in the am I gay for this or that are so frustrating like it doesn't matter just be happy

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  • Indigo1

    you're only gay if you are attracted to people of the same sex

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  • scumbigula

    normal

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  • leggs91200

    I get dudes whacking off to me and I don't even pass very well.

    Well like on meet me, I posted a photo of my feet in black nylons and wrote, "Who wants to rub them?" Man my inbox was crammed!

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    • curious-bunny

      Yea the fact that we are what we are alone draws people in. Kinda insulting but I'm ok with it now. I would rather be desired than not

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      • why do some like you specifically because of that? i see why someone would be attracted if you're good looking whether you're transgender or not, but specifically because of it ? how does that make a difference

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        • leggs91200

          As some have told me - they like someone who looks like a woman but still has man parts.

          On a side note, I think it is silly when some men are attracted to a pretty and passable transwoman but wouldn't date because they might want kids one day. Yeah right. Men hear the word "kids" and run for the hills. They would be better off with a hot transwoman cause "I'm pregnant" will never be a problem.

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          • curious-bunny

            What she said

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            • and you can still adopt

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          • curious-bunny

            Exactly!

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  • SwickDinging

    Traps r gay

    Change my mind

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    • leggs91200

      "change my mind" is so cliche.

      Change my mind.

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      • SwickDinging

        I'll admit it was a really lame joke. I saw it on a meme and thought people would think I was very cool if I said it.

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        • curious-bunny

          I forgive you swick

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  • Alvex

    It's only gay if you already knew that the person who you became attracted to was the same sex as you. It's not gay if you truly believed that the person was the opposite sex at the time of attraction. And since you're uncomfortable now and no longer attracted to them since finding out that they're the same sex, then no, you're not gay

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  • RoseIsabella

    You probably fap way too much.

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    • Indigo1

      lol

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  • TenFootDick

    You are DEFINITELY gay! Without a doubt. Not that there's anything wrong with that

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    • but why though i didn't see any balls or shit

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      • Asatchi

        See if someone says you're gay you can't accept the answer. You only want them to say you're not and then you reply "great thanks, just wanted to be in the clear" It's homophobia plain and simple. How can you even be placing so much weight in what strangers online have to say about your personal internal world? You know yourself better than anyone else. You know if you are same-sex attracted or not. You know if you are attracted to transgender women or not. Being attracted to transgender women is NOT GAY but it's not straight either. Sexuality is on a spectrum. You're not 100% hetero but you're not gay either. There do you feel validated now? Or did you want to hear a different answer?

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        • jesus it's not. it's not worth it to get this excited about my question. just chill, i'm not a homophobe, i want to understand the answer to my question . so i'm 90% straight, not 100%, fine. i'll take it.

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  • LloydAsher

    Dont worry this is an age old internet question. Are traps gay to fap to. Personally I dont think so. Sexual stimuli and actual attraction are two seperate things, now if you wanted to actually date said trap you would get the gay judgment. But if you are fapping just to fap I dont think you are gay, just bored and horny.

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    • thank you lloyd

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  • bigbudchonga

    You are officially confirmed big gay.

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    • Doesnormalmatter

      Why does this make him gay? If once he found out it had a dick he stopped fapping than he is not gay.

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      • bigbudchonga

        He didn't say "no homo" after tho

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        • Doesnormalmatter

          Ah yes. I forgot about that mate. Yep, your gay as fuck OP!

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        • how do you know i didn't ;)

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  • Cutie12345

    This is so funny lol. You thought they were attractive so you fapped to them. Who cares.

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  • mauzi

    You didn’t accidentally fap. You “accidentally” got off to a man, and that’s pretty gay

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    • Alvex

      Not if he didn't know that it was a man. It's only gay if you're getting turned on by someone while already knowing that they're the same sex

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      • mauzi

        You’re saying he fapped to a pic of a fully clothed male where the crotch, Adam’s apple, lack of curves, male jawline and nose were all photoshopped or concealed somehow? You might as well just fap to anime drawings if you get off that easily

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        • what's wrong with fapping to anime drawings anyway man

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        • no it was a full on girl. with curves, without an adams apple, with a perfectly female nose and voice etc. she's transgender, not a drag queen.

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          • mauzi

            Why are you saying it was a transgender female if it was a “full on girl” then?
            Troll detected.

            Being transgender doesn’t change your skeleton / cartilage. You’re thinking of transsexual or someone who had a lot of plastic surgery

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            • She did hormones and had plastic surgery, I assume, because she simply LOOKS like a girl. But on her childhood photos you can see she used to look like a boy.

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            • Jattai

              You're misinformed. If hormones are taken before puberty the physical male features do not develop. In Thailand the lady boys are very convincing. It's very difficult to tell the difference if not impossible. You have the impression that they all look like men in wigs but that's because those ones standout and don't pass. The ones who pass you don't even notice or you probably thought they were hot.

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    • A transgender female is not a man. Also gay men don't get off on transgender they get off on men so it's not gay.

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      • mauzi

        If you’re into PC culture it’s not straight either it’s called pansexual, but if you’re into reality you are gay or bisexual if you are a man who gets off to someone with a cock and balls.

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        • wasn't really able to tell but it didn't look like she still had a cock and balls otherwise i would have notised

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        • No hon. That's called black and white thinking. It's a cognitive distortion.

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          • mauzi

            What? You’re saying you could be sucking a man’s dick or slapping balls together as you pound from behind, and vice versa, but as long as he’s wearing makeup and have long hair it’s considered straight if he says so?

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            • Jattai

              Very descriptive. Interesting that you seem to know so much about it. Done some "research" have we? Did you accidentally fap during your research?

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    • i Meant the accidentally as in, the fact that it was to a man (or a trans woman) was accidental.

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  • No, it doesn't. Men are visual creatures. You see a girl, you fap. Even if he's not a girl.

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  • i'm asking because i want to know. i thought that the homosexual end of the spectrum was less expected since i usually don't experience any of that. i care because i'm interested and that's it

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  • Literally nobody is going to perceive me as gay for this since I just wouldn't tell anyone about it, so I have no idea what makes you think it's about perception. Others can think I'm gay for all I fucking care. I just want to KNOW.

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  • TheBlindInquisitor

    What's her/his name?

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  • leggs91200

    The male ego is a fragile thing. Some are so insecure about their masculinity that they will do anything to show how manly and straight they are.
    Why do you think they sometimes drive huge trucks or Dodge chargers, have tattoos, own a pit bull, etc?

    But then n secret, in deep secret, they are telling transgenders like myself, "I always had this fantasy about..." and it often involves wanting to suck a cock.
    OH Christ forbid their "Brahs" know their filthy fantasy.

    Yep, time for them to trade in the Charger and pit bull for a Pomeranian and VW beetle.

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    • look i don't fucking care about cocks I'm just not into them. I like women and that's the end of it. but the fact that someone has different chromosomes doesn't take away from the fact that she looks like a plain fucking woman.
      tattoos and trucks aren't a male thing, women have tattoos and cars don't stop being cool when others arent' around

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      • leggs91200

        Gay men are sexually attracted to masculinity.
        Straight men are sexually attracted to femininity.

        You are straight. That is all.

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    • I know. They are such hypocrites. Big men in public then the first ones to throw their bum in the air behind closed doors.

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  • just for the record she didn't have a dick but that's all i wanted to know so thanks.

    i don't "like chicks with dicks" it's not like that's a general thing

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  • damn where does it say i dont want to be PERCEIVED as gay? i don't go about showing people what i fap to.nobody would know anyways. i really only wanted to know for myself, and it's weird that wanting to be in the clear about yourself seems to be such a controversial thing lol.

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  • i've replied this to all your other comments but i'll just say it again. I'm not paranoid about being gay in fact i really wouldn't care if i was i just want to know which way it is.

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    • I only made one other comment but ok then you're gay. Camp as a row of tents. As gay as cum on a moustache. As gay as a tap dancing hyena. Gayer than 8 guys blowing 9 guys. Happy now?

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      • i still don't see how "then you're gay"

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        • It's called sarcasm. I'm not engaging with you or this stupid post anymore. You're trolling. Best of luck with your accidental fapping 🙄

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  • Alvex

    A dog? Bestiality, that is kinda freaky and creepy. But, homosexually is not considered a bad thing anymore, maybe it still is in places like Alabama. But not in any modern up to date parts of the country.

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