I'm currious... why would you want to be in a relationship where you felt that any lies other than that there's a surprise party next week (etc.) would be needed.
My wife and I don't need to lie about anything (including our fantasies). In fact, our first wedding vow was "Honesty in all things, except things like there is a surprise party next week."
Now we don't have to tell all either (unless specifically asked). But, lies kill relationships, and I've never seen a real relationship heal back to normal after one party is found to be lying.
Edited to add: Find someone who can handle the truth about who you are and what you do... and you also need to be able to handle the truth about who they are and what they do.
While the truth can hurt (and be very painful)... its a whole lot easier to deal with the issue and the pain, than to deal with knowing that the other person is not honest too.
is it ever ok to lie to your partner
← View full post
I'm currious... why would you want to be in a relationship where you felt that any lies other than that there's a surprise party next week (etc.) would be needed.
My wife and I don't need to lie about anything (including our fantasies). In fact, our first wedding vow was "Honesty in all things, except things like there is a surprise party next week."
Now we don't have to tell all either (unless specifically asked). But, lies kill relationships, and I've never seen a real relationship heal back to normal after one party is found to be lying.
Edited to add: Find someone who can handle the truth about who you are and what you do... and you also need to be able to handle the truth about who they are and what they do.
While the truth can hurt (and be very painful)... its a whole lot easier to deal with the issue and the pain, than to deal with knowing that the other person is not honest too.