Is it considered community property?

if you are using it for family necessities, how come he doesn't realize food, diapers, etc., need to be bought.

at any rate, maybe you two should sit down and work out a budget for the family. then he will realize that you need a certain amount of dollars each week for those items.

instead of asking, tell him that you will be taking X amount of dollars out of the bank to do your errands.

i would advise to always ask if you are taking cash out of his wallet, because that happened to me once. my spouse took most of my cash, which is ok, except i only realized it at the checkout while buying groceries. i didn't have any cards or checkbook with me, and it left me in a situation, which i had to go home, get the checkbook, go back to the store, etc.

many couples keep their money separate, but i don't agree with that. all purchases, except the common ones, (groceries, diapers, gas), should be discussed.

You bitch

yes u should be alowed to take money even if he doesnt agree

Your husband wasnt raised right! My mom was a stay @ home mom and my dad was in the military and was an accountant he was raised in puerto rico with not very much and only women/mom/sisters so he learned to respect and share and actually treat them right i mean how does he have any dignity??? If he isnt respectful enough to let you spend WHAT IS YOURS you should stand up to him and tell him that whats his is yours to because hellooooooo YOURE MARRIED TO HIM! I mean he needs to learn to respect you

You are right!!!!! He is wrong!!! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Start billing him for your services, like all the time and work that goes into shopping & maintaining a household; which, I'll bet, includes most of the house work & child care & changing those diapers that you have been so extravagant with "his" money on.

Your husband is being a selfish buffoon. It is highly insulting and you are correct to take offense. Moreover, it erodes any sense of an equal partnership so vital to a marriage.

Tell him, short and sweet, these insults about "stealing" must stop. If not, its time for marital counseling - on his dime.

He is completely out of line.

Take Sweet Adeline's advice.

You are right, the money in your bank account, regardless of who puts it there, is just as much yours as your husband's. And no, his behavior isn't normal, he is just trying to show you who's boss--keep you in your place.

But I have a suggestion. Don't ASK his PERMISSION to BUY diapers, or whatever, ask him to actually BUY the items, that is, actually go to the store and get the diapers, baby food, tampons, detergent, etc.

He will put up an argument, say he's too busy, he doesn't know what to get, or whatever. But DO NOT GIVE IN to his whining. Tell him you don't want to STEAL from him and make it implicitly clear that either he stops accusing you of stealing and admit the money is as much yours as his, or he starts doing the shopping himself!

I've never had this problem. It seems like you and your hubby need to sit down and have a serious talk about what your expectations are regarding "your" finances.

See, I used your. As I understand things, when you are in a marriage, you share property, band accounts, and possessions. So, I believe the hurt you've voiced to be perfectly normal. If he's worried about you taking his money, then maybe he needs a sperate account for his personal needs. I can't speak for why a married man would react this way to you taking money for family needs.

You've got to talk with him. This seems to have been going on far too long if you've said years.

Good luck.

Wow, a topic I could really help on. I do peoples taxes for a living and I have to understand the community property states as well as those many states that don't work like that. To better answer your question, I need more information.

Stuff like:
What state are you a resident of?
What kind of a marrage do you have?
Do you have a prenuptual agreement?

Only the first question is important but the other two are more to take this out further. Please respond back and I will help you with the legalities of it.

As Karl Marx said “Private property is theft”. Once the revolution has been achieved and the highest freedoms granted to the people by a Marxist-Leninist/Juche peoples government.

The wreath will be distributed by the government.

He does not own your money and nor do you. The people are the ones who own it