nope not “straight edge” i just don’t smoke or get drunk. it doesn’t make anyone a bad person. my boyfriend does both and he doesn’t judge me and he supports me. i do not get why what someone puts in their body is a big deal.
So because I chose not to drink that makes me a control freak.... Ha Ha Ha...
Just because I have self control does not make me a control freak.
"Control freaks are often perfectionists; and such persons manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having to change themselves, and use power over others to escape an inner emptiness."
I have a full life (no inner emptiness in me) and have never objected to any friends or my wife from drinking; and my wife has several kinds of alcohol in the house. Never bothered me.
Nor do I try to control other people except in an emergency situation where immediate significant injury possibilities exist (which I believe has only come up twice in my life).
I do on occasion make suggestions, and the people can follow or not as they see fit.
A wise person does not intentionally get themselves into dangerous and negative situations that they know they may not be able to handle, if there are other alternatives.
A wise person can learn from other's mistakes and apply them to their own life.
Fools don't do that.
Now we are all somewhat foolish in life - and the sooner we recognize that the sooner we start becoming more wise. In my case I had to become more wise than was normal at a very young age as I was buying all my own cloths by age 14, and I started buying some of them at age 12. I mowed lawns, shoveled snow, painted, and all kinds of other household jobs.
Because of that wisdom, and learning to appropriately judge risks, I have literally stood on top of mountains that most people would never attempt and also was an Official or Judge at 2 World Championships and 1 Olympics in the sport I was involved in.
I also happen to know many people where their entire family do not drink alcohol, and a number of world level athletes. Not drinking alcohol is more common than you think.
You don't need alcohol or drugs to succeed. You do need self control.
Is it bad I don’t like getting drunk/high?
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I'm not a control freak, and have never been.
I am highly independent... and done many things that most other people only dream about.
Note that my father was an alcoholic and it destroyed his life and significantly affected the family.
My personality is just like his - and I figured I could never afford to get into drinking or it would have destroyed me as well.
All 7 or my brothers and sisters have agreed with my assessment when I told them why I don't drink.
Sometimes people are smart enough as teenagers to make the right choice for thier life on something. In this case, not drinking was the right choice.
Also, it does not stop me from having fun... a lot of it.
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Control freak, with a hint of self righteousness.
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how does not drinking make you self righteous?????
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It doesn’t make someone self righteous automatically. But they certainly can be about it.
The straight edge community is filled with that shit.
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nope not “straight edge” i just don’t smoke or get drunk. it doesn’t make anyone a bad person. my boyfriend does both and he doesn’t judge me and he supports me. i do not get why what someone puts in their body is a big deal.
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It’s not a big deal. I meant more that those that abstain tend to make it into a big deal.
So because I chose not to drink that makes me a control freak.... Ha Ha Ha...
Just because I have self control does not make me a control freak.
"Control freaks are often perfectionists; and such persons manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having to change themselves, and use power over others to escape an inner emptiness."
I have a full life (no inner emptiness in me) and have never objected to any friends or my wife from drinking; and my wife has several kinds of alcohol in the house. Never bothered me.
Nor do I try to control other people except in an emergency situation where immediate significant injury possibilities exist (which I believe has only come up twice in my life).
I do on occasion make suggestions, and the people can follow or not as they see fit.
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True self control would be if one could drink and then stop.
Avoiding something all together is more akin to a fear response.
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It's called wisdom, not fear.
A wise person does not intentionally get themselves into dangerous and negative situations that they know they may not be able to handle, if there are other alternatives.
A wise person can learn from other's mistakes and apply them to their own life.
Fools don't do that.
Now we are all somewhat foolish in life - and the sooner we recognize that the sooner we start becoming more wise. In my case I had to become more wise than was normal at a very young age as I was buying all my own cloths by age 14, and I started buying some of them at age 12. I mowed lawns, shoveled snow, painted, and all kinds of other household jobs.
Because of that wisdom, and learning to appropriately judge risks, I have literally stood on top of mountains that most people would never attempt and also was an Official or Judge at 2 World Championships and 1 Olympics in the sport I was involved in.
I also happen to know many people where their entire family do not drink alcohol, and a number of world level athletes. Not drinking alcohol is more common than you think.
You don't need alcohol or drugs to succeed. You do need self control.