Is it all in my head?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few years. We live together and we're happy.
The only thing that gets me (and him) frustrated is I constantly think his sister is out to get me.

If she asks him to help her after work, the two of them go out for coffee Saturday morning, they meet for lunch during the week or she invites him round to her place after work, I think it's because she doesn't want him to spend time with me and just spend his free time with her.

The two of us did spend a bit of time together but we don't have much in common and we had those awkward silences and often when we're all together, she will hardly speak to me and just focus her attention on him. He seems to phase everyone else out and they go off into their own world when they're together which can be difficult when we're out as I just feel like a third wheel and I'M the girlfriend!

He says she's hated everyone else he has dated and does like me but she's threatened by me. I don't think that I'm a threat.
My boyfriend and I have had serious rows about this and he keeps telling me it's all in my head and we don't need to spend every waking moment together (the words pot, kettle and black spring to mind and my brother and I don't phase people out when we're in company) but if you've been thinking the same thing for a few years, it must be true, right? Is it all in my head or is she out to get me?

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  • crayZ
    15 years ago

    I think you have paranoia, but she is also contibuting. It is probs not as bad as you think, half the stuff we all go through is like that, but talk to her about it, if you beleive things have improved, then its probs not paranoia, if after all of the talks it still feels the same or even worse, see your GP and if he gives you medication take it and see if you feel better, if after all of that you still feel like this, then idk wtf you should do.

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  • Team_Cullen
    15 years ago

    Both(?). I mean, maybe she did liked you from all the rest. & maybe, because you were so sick of her, u though that sometimes, it's her who has problems. I'm not blaming you or anything, that's just my opinion. :) Goodluck. :)

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