Is it a turn off to be a virgin at the age of 18?

Im not sure how long its gonna take me to finally lose my virginity but I feel insecure about in the future that Im still a virgin not having enough time to start having children and a family which saddens me, because by the time I lose it im probably in my 30's. Being a virgin at 18 and not losing it yet isn't because Im afraid that its gonna hurt me but the fact that im afraid to bring a guy home and that hes basically one of those guys that may judge me, I lived a different lifestyle, went through tough times, struggling to survive... Some wouldn't understand. Im not afraid to lose my virginity to someone but afraid of being judged about my life, by a guy... When your a Virgin your also afraid of not being good enough because your useless in bed. While im waiting for that right guy, im focusing on studys but at the same time its hard to because lifes too short and I wanna experience it... Its hard.

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  • Absolutely normal!! A bunch of my 18 year old friends are still virgins too! It's become more normal in my opinion. You'll find someone don't worry!

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  • Be yourself and only accept a guy who accepts you for who you are the whole package!

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  • Being a virgin at 18 is normal. My girlfriend lost her virginity at 23.

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  • Don't be so hard on yourself. Your virginity isn't something to just throw away, and neither are your feelings. Don't give yourself to some random jerk just so you won't be a virgin anymore. I think you should wait for someone you're in love with, someone you love, who loves you too.

    I lost my virginity to my first love who was also a virgin, I was 19, and he was 21. I wouldn't trade the circumstances under which I lost my virginity for anything. I think there's nothing wrong with being a virgin.

    Anyone who judges you, because you are still a virgin is not worth your time, effort, or emotion, and certainly ain't worth yo lovin'! People who treat you as less than are not worthy of you, dear heart!

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  • No, there is no "turn off age" to be a virgin. Sex is something you do when you're ready and comfortable with it, not by a certain age.

    If I were you, I'd wait until you find someone you love and trust, and it feels right. That way you will be much less likely to have regrets or do it with a jerk who would judge you. That's another thing, a guy worth being with will not judge you like that.

    I'm 24 and still a virgin, and in no hurry to lose my virginity.

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  • Why do you feel like you’re running out of time when you’re only 18? And talking about being single in your 30s when they won’t even start for 12 years? All manner of things can and will happen in that time. Why are you fixated on 2031?

    You’re getting waaaay ahead of yourself, relax.

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  • It’s just sex, I don’t think too much about it, had that phase too and you’ll get over it. Experience everything you can, it’s never too late for that, people tend to put themselves under time pressure. U could start a hobby or something to boost your self confidence if youre afraid of people judging you. That takes some time too but it’ll be better than to rush through it

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  • Many men prefer virgins.

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  • 18, god shouldn't you be playing bingo with all the other old pensioners?

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  • I’m 18 and also a virgin so you’re def not alone in this one

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  • Nah man, being a virgin at 18 is 100% normal. You only just became an adult, and tbh, being a virgin at that age is more common than one would think.

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  • It's completely normal, and even though I lost it at 14 really it doesn't matter. You shouldn't use it to gauge your value as a person. I'm bi so let's say I find someone that's a virgin, it's cute and fun to teach. (if i'm the top)

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  • 17 is average age for men so you're really not that abnormal. I would suggest you concentrate more on school than sex because by 18 you really should know the difference between your and you're. Its kind of junior level grammar.

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  • Its within your control, I would just lose it. If it casuses you to worry so much just end it. Have sex.

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